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Apr 27, 2008, 02:31 PM
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Why does it always make me so very sad and angry when I talk to my BF via email or even IM and he is "so happy"...having "such a great time"???
I mean, he left me here alone and he isn't working yet, so why the heck should HE be having such a great time? OK, so he is spending time with his son, living with his mom and bro again...he is STILL co-Dependant no matter how you look at it. So, he couldn't handle my outbursts whether due to PTSD or Bipolar that doesn't mean he should be mooching off others still! He should be miserable, like me. He should be sad, like me. He should be working, like me......ARGH!!! Why do I still love him with all my heart? Maybe it's because he is so kind hearted, mellow, doesn't get angry at anything and he is just plain loving. The only thing he ever really did to me was to leave me with no note or anything. He needed to leave and I understand that, but I am still upset about that. Why do I continue to let myself get so upset over being so very alone? I should be taking advantage of it, but I am not social at all. I don't go out anywhere unless someone is with me. Why???? Why do I care so darned much? Why do I let it make me so depressed???           BLAAAAAH!!!! Ok, I think I feel a little better now....whew... BJ
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Apr 27, 2008, 02:33 PM
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((((((((( BJ ))))))))) i wish i had some advice for you but i've never done great on the relationship front myself. all i can say is hang in there, things will get better.  
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Apr 27, 2008, 02:37 PM
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Thanks Roz...I'm trying...this is my first real relationship and I am 33!! I always used to say that I would never get married, never get this close to anyone, never be vulnerable and I think I am probably just mad at myself for letting him get so close....
It's ok...I'm just gonna try to chill out. Thanks for always being there for me... BJ
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Apr 27, 2008, 02:45 PM
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(((((((((((((BJ))))))))))))))))
I suck at relationship advice, but I feel your frustration.
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Apr 27, 2008, 06:00 PM
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Ouch. As a living-with-mom guy myself, who doesn't like - and has recently relearned that - social events, I'd suggest just letting him know how you feel. Don't tell him that he can't have a good time, of course, just let him know you wish you were as well. Nothing may change, but talking through it can sometimes help with the direct issue, which is feeling lonely and "different" for being depressed and anti-social.
*hugs*
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Apr 27, 2008, 06:43 PM
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Thanks Christina and Pseudonym. I just don't want him to think I don't want him to have fun or anything. I do, I just wish we were having fun together. Maybe I will talk to him....I don't want him to feel guilty, either.
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Apr 27, 2008, 06:45 PM
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((((((((((((BJ))))))))))))))
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Apr 27, 2008, 06:58 PM
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I'm sure he'd love to have fun with you too; I think you should give him a call when he's got some free time. Try not to be confrontational. I think he'll understand.
Try eating something on the phone like George Costanza to feel more casual. Maybe a potato?  *HUG*
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Apr 27, 2008, 07:19 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Pseudonym said: I'm sure he'd love to have fun with you too; I think you should give him a call when he's got some free time. Try not to be confrontational. I think he'll understand. Try eating something on the phone like George Costanza to feel more casual. Maybe a potato? *HUG* </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Well, he doesn't have a phone, but we talk via IM or email, so maybe I will try that way. LOL....very funny! No potatoes! *hug* back!
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Apr 28, 2008, 07:24 PM
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Not good with realationship advice (can't even spell the word...) but I hope you are feeling better soon.
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Apr 28, 2008, 07:29 PM
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Thanks ((((GRIFFE))))
BJ
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#12
Apr 29, 2008, 09:55 PM
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I'm also not good with relationship advice
 but I'm thinking of you (((((((((( BJ )))))))))))
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