I have a question.

How do you get through to a friend who trys to solve every little conflict with fighting? She is always saying "I'm just gunna deck this person and that person in the face...bla bla bla" And every time I try to tell her that its only going to make things worse for her and she might get hurt more than she thinks(not just physically) she gets extremely mad at me and wont speak with me for days. I know I shouldnt be worrying about it as much as I am. But she always comes to me with her problems and all that does is bring me down. She knows how much of a hard time Im having lately, she just seems to be getting very selffish. I listen to all her problems every day and then when I go to talk about something thats bothering me, she completely ignores me. Not just doesnt listen, she will literally turn her head and space off. I know im just going on and on but I really just needed to vent about her. I dont have other real friends so I cant just not be friends with her anymore. I know this seems like sort of a silly problem, but it is REALLY starting to bring me way down.
But if anyone has any advice on how to get through to her about the fighting thing it would be greatly apprcieated.

IMO You gave her wise advice many times about being aggressive towards other ppl. There are other ways to solve differences peaceably. If she chooses to ignore your warnings, that is her choice & decision - could be a painful way for her to learn ? If she is dumping on you with her problems maybe you need to establish boundaries for yourself. Esp. if your going downward. Something like "I'm sorry you are having problems, but I am having a difficult time in my life too, & I need someone to be there for me too". With her overt body language she is telling you she doesn't want to hear or even listen your problems, perhaps she can't handle it, & that's ok. Sometimes when we are in tremendous pain ourselves you cannot take on someone elses problems without both of you drowning. Please take care of yourself first, then if anything is left over perhaps that you can share, w/ in your boundaries. She does not seem to want to follow your suggestions about not fighting, ok then she has chosen the consequenses (possibly hurtful to her) maybe she'll learn from experiences ways to settle differences peacefully. In my opinion.
Holmes