[carla37]

Is it possible that you can actually die from being so broken hearted. That life is so grim, with out your love, Im not saying in the sense to actually end your life but die naturally, from dispare. anyone ever heard of this. its like my love gave me energy, life in my body, a reason to live, security, laughter, something to look foward to, that was good and whole.

[DOWNINNATICK]

Hugs Carla;
I don't think you can die from a broken heart, but it sure can feel like you are. Life will get better, it will just take time and you need to find the strength from within to give yourself energy, a reason to relieve and the strength to know you are the only one that will give you security and laughter.

I hope all these feels go away and that happiness fills your life.

Hugs
Cindy

[cantstopcrying]

When I lived in Virginia Beach I worked for a cardiologist there who had a patient that was very sick. She had not only congestive heart failure but dementia, too. Her husband adored her. I mean absolutely 100% adored her. He did everything for her. They were an amazing couple. They were in their late 60's or early 70's. They bought me presents when I was pregnant, after I had Tori, Mrs. S got really sick and I took Tori to their house to check on her and let her see Tori. About 2 weeks later, she died. I went over to check on him twice a week and those were the only times he would get up. He was so depressed. 2 months later he died. I believe the cause of death was listed as cardiopulmonary failure--they can't put broken heart on a death certificate. I believe, if you've weathered ups and downs for years and years, if you know each other better than you know yourself, if your mate is the other half of you, yes, you can give in and let your body go. I think your state of mind is very important to your health. On the other side, my sisters in-law's were in their 80's when he died, they adored each other, also, but she lived another 11 years!!

Yes, I do believe people can die of a broken heart. We as species evolved so socially that to be alone is to die. It's why people try so hard to fit in, and are so crushed when rejected. While most animals only need food, water, and shelter to survive, we also need love as well. Without love we are not truly alive so the body will eventually fail so much faster then it would have if we were not lonely.

My grandma only lasted about a year after grandpa died. In this year some bad things did happen, she twisted her leg so bad she had to be put in a wheelchair, and burned the other leg, she spent her last few months in the hospital as other organs began to struggle to survive, although the doctor said by the time she actually died there was nothing medically wrong with her- she was getting better. She just lost the will to live. We all know this was because grandpa died.

[cantstopcrying]

As a side, please know this isn't to say you will die from a broken heart, or that there is no hope. Please don't think that.

[carla37]

thanks guys. I truely understand. I truely truely believe i found my soul mate. we acted the same , talked the same, laughed like crazy at the same things, was so in love, and had such passion for one inother, like I loved him and he loved me, it wasnt ever second guessed, or one loved one more then the other, I could have meshed in him. But I am sick and I loved him so much, I didnt want him to experience the pains of my sickness. so I let him go . out of love. I wanted him to be happy, and not have to see me sick, and be sad, or put a burden on him. But I don t think I can ever love again, like that. its gone!! once in a life time, it comes around. Some times I wish i never saw this kind of love.

[nightowl382008]

Hi Carla , i think it is possible to die or become just very sick when you lose the person that was your soulmate . I have been there and I still grieve after a couple of years . Sometimes you think , what is the point of this and knowing this person that was so special , and they can never be forgotten . You think it will fade like others you have known and it just doesnt . I hope the best for you