[kebsfroggy]

One day you are overwhelmed with this and that needing to be done, places to go, things to see. Now you are once again the frog of little brain. Everything will be taken care of just go back to what you were doing and mind you own business.

Ah, the little brain forgot about the commander 'n' chief and the wicked witch from the north. Your help is not wanted or needed. Come to find out I don't know what I'm talking about.

My mother is still having the surgery to remove of one of her kidneys. But what or when is still up in the air. Well, or at least not known by the frog of little brain.

Should have never told wicked witch my oldest son and I would be coming before the surgery. Of course exact date of surgery is still unknown. However mom is now expecting us before the surgery. The witch will loan us her broom so we make it there on time. (no one can tell me when that it is) I can see this going to be another one of the loving family gatherings.

I am not to get the jitterbug phone for Mom because I didn't check with wicked witch first. Wicked witch is going to teach her how to use the phone she has now. That fact that she has trouble hearing and since her stroke has difficulties remembering things will not make it difficult for her to use the phone where she must type in numbers.

Do I sound angry and vindictive, probably. I wouldn't at all be surprised. My family has operated under the rules of "he said, she said, no I didn't, yes you did" for so long now it's becoming second nature.

We should be taking care of the person who needs our help. Quiet, calm, caring. Not arguing over who said what, when, how or to whom.

Except for not being so far from my sons, it is probably a good thing my family is scattered across the country. If for no other reason than our own safety.

Did I do a good job of ranting and raving. If not I'll keep trying.

[cantstopcrying]

You sounded frustrated but very calm for someone ranting and raving...feel free to try again I think our wicked witches may be related!!! I'm sorry you, too, have a toxic family..it would be nice if they all could focus on mom, like the caring frog with a big heart does.

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((((( froggy ))))))))))))))))))

[Capp]

((kebsfroggy))
I think you did such a good job ranting and raving that you should offer a correspondence course on how to do it.
Very effective and I hope you feel better...

Families. I cannot think of any word that adequately describes their negative impact on our peace.

Cap

[distanced]

Kebsfroggy,

Wow, if only I could rant like that. My children would love it........

Will have to sign up for those courses when you start offering them (hint)

Take care

Distanced

[nowheretorun]

((Kebs)))))) i hope getting how you feel about all this out here is helping you, i can relate to a lot of what you are saying and i guess for me ive learned to accept the things i cannot change, the wisdom to know the difference, and the sanity to get the hell out when i am able.... course, with some people in my life i find myself in a place of starting over again and again... it helps to define the boundaries and be firm about how much i will do for them when dysfunction rears up its ugly head.. we need to be in a good place ourselves before we can be much use to others i think except in those family emergencies where they roust you out of bed at any hour and we need to be there like we hope others would be in our time of need.. i hope there is some amount of joy for you in this although i have to agree that the frog population in AZ in not as high as it is there in Florida

[kebsfroggy]

Originally Posted by nowheretorun

((Kebs)))))) i hope getting how you feel about all this out here is helping you, i can relate to a lot of what you are saying and i guess for me ive learned to accept the things i cannot change, the wisdom to know the difference, and the sanity to get the hell out when i am able.... course, with some people in my life i find myself in a place of starting over again and again... it helps to define the boundaries and be firm about how much i will do for them when dysfunction rears up its ugly head.. we need to be in a good place ourselves before we can be much use to others i think except in those family emergencies where they roust you out of bed at any hour and we need to be there like we hope others would be in our time of need.. i hope there is some amount of joy for you in this although i have to agree that the frog population in AZ in not as high as it is there in Florida

You are right well I guess it is helping. I just wish I would learn from my mistakes. I should wait to be asked before jumping in. I don't know can you teach old frogs new tricks?

How many times do you have to run into the brick wall before you learn the lesson? For some reason, if I see a need I jump in. Not just family, perfect strangers too. Funny the the perfect strangers seem more appreciative than family. Maybe it is because the don't know me and that I'm a frog of little brain.

I would imagine a frog in AZ has a much better chance of ending up as road kill. Guess I better stay in my swamp.

Thanks

(((kebs)))))))))))
You are a frog with a kind heart. Venting out of fustration....
Myself i have been there years ago with family issues..
Your right it is very hard at times and trying
in your heart you will know what to do
(((you matter to very much)))))))))))
so take care of you too
I will pray for your mom ((that all goes well))))
muffy

[nowheretorun]

its ok to care ((Kebs))))