Single and lonely.

Come midnight and the dawn of Valentine's Day, my username will never, ever be more apt. I'm a virgin, have never had a girlfriend, and have never even so much as simply kissed a girl. In my life, I've only asked two girls out, and was promptly shot down both times. In light of the fact that I'm "only" 17, this may not seem so bad, but with the knowledge that I lag so very far behind all of my peers -- most of whom, at this point, have had relationships and sex with many partners, whilst I've yet to even kiss a girl -- it's hard to not be self-conscious and depressed about it.

I know I should not compare myself to others and doing so will only ebb away at my already barely-extant self-esteem, but I can't NOT. Why have I lived my entire life up to this point unloved? What's wrong with me? What do other guys have that I don't? Silly me, I know the answer to that question: looks, charisma, good social skills, a network of friends and acquiantances in which a mate may be selected from, and things to offer -- all of which I decidedly lack. God, I'm so insufferably pathetic. I don't even deserve someone to love, so I suppose all is as it should be.

((((((((((( Loveless ))))))))))))))))

You deserve love hun, I am sorry that you feel unloved, that is a horrible feeling it must be very difficult to see others in relationships. I hope that you find love very soon, I am sending you some special valentine hugs.

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I am sorry you are feeling so low and unloved. But you are only 17 years old and you have your whole life ahead of you to meet the right girl and be happy. Love is not something that you just rush into and make happen because everyone else seems to have it. High School is rough enough without putting the pressure on yourself to be like everyone else and if you are not, then you think there is something wrong with you.

It just is not so. When I was in school, I was involved in sports and not in a lot of going out and all. I did not feel I was missing out as I knew someday when it was time the right man would come along. Besides, there was enough abuse around me and hurting me that I did not want to be hurt any more.

I do understand your feelings, and I honestly am not putting you down for them, but you really have plenty of time for a relationship and losing your virginity. Enjoy High School while you can. These years go too fast as it is and you cannot get them back once they are gone. Growing up is hard enough without putting more pressure on yourself. Just relax and take one day at a time. And remember you do deserve to live and have a happy life. And know you do have support and friends here at pc that will listen and be here for you.

dps

Hey man,

Sex isn't love for one thing...

To attract other people that are good and loving, you need to love yourself. Why don't you tell me some things you actually LIKE about yourself?

We build on our STRENGTHS. Confidence comes with this strength building. Sometimes we need a little extra help. I see a therapist. Ever think of talking it out with one?

Do you have plans for when you graduate HS?

(((((loveless)))))

(((loveless))), wish I had your age again.... Just so you know, I didn't have a "real" relationship until I was about 20 something. Really, I didn't take it too seriously.Just try to feel comfortable with whatever you do. Anyway, I hope you find love, but the real one!! I know it's difficult, having all those feelings about feeling different from the rest. But you know a secret, many of those that you judge right now for being outgoing, handsmome, or whatever ... may think like you and feel different. At the end we're just the same, on the same boat! Just observe what's around you and you will find out what I mean, I assure you!



Rap.

(((((loveless)))))

All I can tell you is that I sure am glad I'm not 17 anymore!! High school sucks, but it will end, and your life on the other side is just waiting to help you transform into whoever you want to be. Don't let your high school experience define you, and don't think it's going to set the tone for the rest of your life's experiences. Give yourself time to fall in love, and in the meantime, concentrate on being someone you can love. Not everyone falls in love in high school, or even in the first few years after that. It's not a race to the finish line, it's a journey of self-discovery, and somewhere along the line you're going to find someone who's walking the same path.

Take care.

At the age of 17, it is much more likely that a person will have a bad relationship rather than a good, mature, satisfying one. Nonethelss, I know you are hungry for experiences, whether they be bad or good.

It is an absolute guarantee that you can find someone to date you. There are girls in your school who are just as lonely as you. Focus your attention on seeking out those girls who are not popular and who are not stuck-up. You'll get one, for sure. Then make up your mind to have fun, and you will.