[SophiaG]

What do you do when you feel Lonely/Insecure?



I dont know how to fix my insecurity. How do I do this?

And how do i stop feeling so damn lonely?

[gimmeice]

((((((((((( SophiaG )))))))))))))))))

[dan0woods]

i feel the same way...it sucks

everyone says what a cute guy i am and how i am such a nice guy. they all tell me i'll find someone special. they don't know that there is no way i could ever have a serious relationship with anyone because i am so insecure. I don't see how i can ever change and i've tried so hard. is this the same with you?

[Puffyprue]

i dont know i just could sending u a huge hugs

[SophiaG]

ty for all the hugs guys. They make me feel loved. n_n

I do want an answer to my questions though. Can anyone answer them?

[gimmeice]

Originally Posted by SophiaG

What do you do when you feel Lonely/Insecure?
I usually either come here and go to chat or read a book, both seems to help.


I dont know how to fix my insecurity. How do I do this?
Have you considered some group therapy? Being in a group has helped me some.
And how do i stop feeling so damn lonely?

Group therapy and therapy should help some with this. Feeling lonely is a symptom of depression so treating the depression may help.

I hope those answers help some, I don't pretend to have all the answers those are just some things that have helped me.

[turquoisesea]

maybe working on something simple - I know this sounds stupid

but making a list of your insecurities first. why do you feel so insecure?

Then answer them.

lets say youre insecure because you think no one will like you

make up a phrase that combats it. Like, if I be myself I will find people who like me.

Say it like 10 times or more a day.

Know it sounds silly , see if it helps

[TREETREE]

I AM ALWAYS SO UNSURE OF MYSELF AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING SHOULD I ASK SOMEONE, NO THEN THY WILL THINK IM CRAZY. MY BOYFRIEND CANT STAND ME OR MY DISEASE, WHAT DO I DO?

[SophiaG]

Originally Posted by TREETREE

I AM ALWAYS SO UNSURE OF MYSELF AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING SHOULD I ASK SOMEONE, NO THEN THY WILL THINK IM CRAZY. MY BOYFRIEND CANT STAND ME OR MY DISEASE, WHAT DO I DO?

tree tree!

Please do post a new post. make your own thread n_n

WHat is your disease?

[daggy]

Hi Sophia

long time no hear
Even the best of us don't feel secure all the time .There are many different things you can do to chase those insecurities away. Just start with the small things and work up to the big ones that wont seem so big once you get there
If life was just so filled with the knowledge that whatever we do or want or feel would just appear and not have to worry about anything. Life would suck after awhile.
It is the little insecurities about life and all struggles we go through that makes us stronger for the next round.
Share your fears with someone you trust and little by little life will smile back at you I have found that to be case many times .You are a strong person don't forget that is always around you

[madisgram]

that's a good question! i benefitted from utilizing a therapist to better understand what was making me feel lonely or insecure. i made a list of the things like for instance why i felt insecure. what were the feelings i had when i felt that way. many of my thoughts about myself were incorrect. i called them "old tapes". with the help of my T we untangled the mess of false beliefs and replaced the old tapes with new true ones.
i'll give you an example:
i'm insecure because i don't think i'm worthy of having a good friend.
the key word there is i don't feel worthy.
they key is that is a false belief. everyone is worthy of many things. why shouldn't i feel worthy? i'm likeable, caring of others, trustworthy.
so we replaced the false belief to a real and true belief about myself.
i am worthy of having a good friend because i'm caring of others.,etc.

i have simplified the example but i hope this helps you. it's difficult to untangle all this by youself. i'd encourage you to see a therarpist to help you with these feelings. hope you'll let us know how u're doing.