[leacon]

What do you do when one day your therapist messes up your appointment time and then the next day begins to push you to go to once every two weeks instead of once a week? Made me feel as if I am not wanted. May not have bothered me at a different time but right after messing up my appointment time bugs the hell out of me. Maybe I am just becoming too sensitive but it still bugs me. Beginning to wonder if it is not time for a change. I have seen her for a long time maybe I have gone as far as I can with her. Need to think this out more any comments are welcome.

[justfloating]

(((((((((leacon))))))))))))

My counsellor has messed up my appointment time before too. I was more or less scheduled to see her when she actually had a meeting to be at, and in the end she ended up cramming me in for half an hour (I normally see her for an hour). It was very frustrating, and I felt as if she didn't really want me there. I understand how you're feeling.

Also, if your therapist is suggesting you see her on a bi-weekly schedule, it's not because she doesn't want you, it's more likely that she thinks you don't NEED to see her as often. It doesn't seem like it right now, but it's actually a positive thing. My counsellor did the same thing, because she thought that I was making enough progress that I didn't have to see her every week. When I slipped a little while later (mostly due to some personal trauma), she had me come in every week again for about a month before I got back on my feet, and now I'm back to seeing her bi-weekly again. Try not to see it as being pushed away, but as being given your own space to take care of yourself. Your therapist probably wants to give you some independence now, because she feels you're ready for that. Remember, though, that if YOU don't feel ready for bi-weekly appointments, you are completely free to tell her that. Maybe you could explain why you'd prefer to continue seeing her once a week, or ask her why she feels you should come once every two weeks. All I can suggest is that you be as open as possible with her about this before you make any decisions about switching appointment schedules or therapists.

Sending lots of hugs.

[turquoisesea]

Therapists make mistakes too

it's up to you ... you can probably insist on weekly meetings... have you told the therapist how it made you feel?

[trevorzero]

You may want to see what your therapist has to say if you bring up the possibility of changing to a new T. Perhaps both of you are in something of a rut and it may be time to start anew.

[Berries]

I would suggest being very open about your feelings with your T.

I would also like to throw out there that sometimes we out grow our Ts and need a fresh approach from someone new. And that is not anyone's fault.

Hang in there; I know this must be a tough and hurtful time for you.

[miray]

((((((((leacon)))))))) I'm sorry to hear you are going through such a frustrating situation. Messing up your appointment could have been an honest mistake. Maybe she/he is going through something of their own that has them distracted. A reason to cut back on your appointments could be they feel you are improving or they need to cut back on hours themselves. Try talking to them about what you are feeling. Hopefully they will explain things better to you. Best of luck