[Elysium]

K....this is Tosh!!

Our father's a JACK HOLE, which you may have read already in the title. It's not good to be a JACK HOLE!!

So...we have been communicating with him by email, as we are really not supposed to be having contact with him because he is not good people for our system. He still likes to play mental mind games and denies any abuse on his part.

AS IF....

Anywho...we...uh, I mean I...others didn't want to tell, decided to tell the sperm donor about our DID last week. We sent him some good links to accurate sites so he could read about it too. Instead of going to our links he looked it up on Wikipedia!! Not that Wikipedia is bad, but we would prefer he got the info from something more.....well, just something more.

So...when we told him about DID, we explained it to him like it was an office environment. (He is very business oriented) We told him that we had a boss who decided who got to work the front desk depending on what the needs of the business were at the time, and that the people in the back could come to the front when needed and that everyone had their own job. He accepted this metaphor.

Fast forward to tonight....

I was asking him some difficult questions regarding his abusive behavior and he decided he wanted to be a jerk and instead of answering the questions like a man, do you know what he said. He had the audacity to say "WE need you to change the desk attendant. WE are no longer your historian. Do not count on me for memory recall. I will continue to be nice but that is all."

Daddy Dearest....FU!!

JACK HOLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sooo when does he START being nice ???


May I give you a hug?

[Soidhonia]

Ely. Hello . You may NEVER get your father to admit to anything regarding the past, but at least your father is now aware of the consequences of his Past behaviour in your life. The main thing is to get the help you need to stay and be safe from the Past, his permission is not required. OKay?. Take care Ely. Pm anytime. Soidhonia

[Jewels]

Tosh...im very sorry that u r goin thru this thing with ur dad...seems that the more we try ta b nice ta those who abused us the worse they become...i hope that u can try ta move on from this point, accept things the way they r, an do things ta keep u safe an secure in an unsecure world...i know things can get rough...we have a mother like that...an i dont think she is ever gonna change either...so we just take everythin she is sayin as a grain of salt an then let it just drop off us an go on about our business...hope today will give u new ideas of dealin with things surroundin ur abuser...

abbi of jewels

[Hunny]

Elysium:

We desired to make them aware and to have them confess. What good is it though? Really, means nothing. I have photo of grave of one of mine.

Justice, when?

IS

Tosh--- I am so sorry that you are hurting.