The Mother Strikes Again

I get so angry at self for letting mother amaze me time and time again...i'm not freaked or anything, so i'm learning. t will be pleased here's her latest...

my brother is staying in an apt. over top of the mother (it's a big house) they share the same phone line. well, i called and told her i was calling for him to see when and if he's getting the baby. so we hang up and i call back. she's been worried for months that he's listening to her phone calls...keep in mind.

well, i call back and talk with the brother. i hang up and she IMMEDIATELY calls me back and says, "well, i'm glad i just did what i did. i don't feel bad about making him move now. he said he has 1,000 to move on. great!". i said, "what?"

she said, "i picked up and listened and i'm glad i did. i feel much better now." and kept talking about that.

i said, "i'm glad he's moving too cause y'all freak me flippin out!" she said, "don't y'all me! this is the first time i've ever done that and i'm glad i did!". i got off the phone after hearing a few lines of her trying to back peddle because of my shocked response. i now know why she was certain the brother was listening and could without anyone knowing it. she's been doing it!

she then tried to state that she didn't think he was going to pick up so she tried to catch it, which is a lie. she knows that most times i have to call two or three times for the brother to get the clue that it's for him because the mother isn't answering. also, she had to have turned t.v. off and not moved a muscle for us to not have heard anything...oh, and she also told me about the "mute" feature.

she justified listening to his convo. she doesn't even recognize "me" and never has. it was my convo she listened in on it's triggering because the "chess game" has gone up in intesity. i'm so sad that i have to have contact with her right now. i told t months ago that i would have major space between us if it weren't for the baby. she's not helping much with care ( and for that i'm glad right now ), but she helps with diapers and clothes and making sure he's alright when the brother has him. i'm stuck

i'm so impressed with myselves more and more that we've come out of that family with just DID and that we're not mean, ugly, evil ppl. AMAZING. TRULY AMAZING.

thank you for listening.

love,

(((((((((((kd))))))))))))))

grr @ the mother!!!!!

I am very impressed with you all, too. And good job on not letting this destabilize you, hon


Angela

thank you, ((((((((((((((((((( angela )))))))))))))))))))))))))

there's upset inside though i hope it doesn't start something.

how are you today?

kd

I am impressed with all of you as well. Breaking the cycle of abuse is so hard and you've been doing such an amazing job. You did very well in dealing with her on the telephone.

Are you able to take time today for insiders to do a few things they would like? Be sure to have your list of safe things to do available and very visible today for all of you just in case.

My brain isn't really with me today and whatever I was going to say when I started this post is long gone now.

take good care of all of yourselves

((((((((((((((((( zh ))))))))))))))))))))) yes, i should have some alone time later. t's concerned to with others having time. i'm trying

starting next week i should have every friday evening alone, unless it rains

ty for praise and understanding. i hope you feel better sweetie. pm if you need.

love,

kd

Yipppeeeeee for Kimmydawn, your doin great girl keep on keepin on
Angie

(((((((((((((((((kimmydawn)))))))))))))))))

Hey Kimmy, your mom is something. Diagnosable I am sure! Wow. Good job for handling it the way you did. I still think you should move closer so we can help with the little one!

she does take the cake! glad you're as well as you can be under the circumstances!!

(((((( kd )))))Safe hugs if wanted.

Oh man, you are getting so strong. I know it's still hard and upsetting but is seems you are handling it all better and better.
That is so great.

I know what it's like to feel like you are caught in a situation with the mother. It is very hard and I hope that very soon you can find a way to put distance between you and her.

You are doing a wonderfull thing for that little guy too btw.

Be very good to yourselves kd.

Take care.

place

I am SOOO proud of you!! You are coming a long way. This is just the first step. Next time will be easier in dealing w/ her.
Big hugs to you & yourselves!!
Love,
RhysMadison

Have been away for awhile, but so good to come back and find you so strong and capable, kd! It's been about 2mos since I've been on the site, and since then you've grown soooo much and taken so much control. I am so proud of you. Remember how badly this would have set you back in the past? Now just look at y'all!! What a team! Keep being good to yourselves. You DESERVE it. You've broken the cycle w/ the little guy, and HE deserves that. You're awesome, kd. Just keep on keeping on. You handled your mom in a correct, strong, and confident way. GOOD FOR YOU! You're my example in handling my mom. Thanks, Janesgang

thank you (((((((((((((((((((( angie ))))))))))))))))))))))

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thank you.

((((((((((((((((((((((((( ww ))))))))))))))))))))))))))

it would be great if you could. things are getting easier now, and with warm weather coming...whoo hoo! yes, the mother is something else...ty for understanding.

kd

thank you ((((((((((((((((((((( pat )))))))))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((((((( place )))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you so much. i've been under so much pressure lately that i don't know if i'm coming or going half of the time.

today is another one of those days. i think it's helping that i'm too busy to even offer her an appropriate reaction...lol

she tried to justify it to me again last nite on the phone, and i wouldn't speak to her about it, excepting to say, "you chose to tell me about that, and i can have my opinion about it. that FREAKS me out!" she maintained that she was still glad for it. i said, "well, that's all that matters, isn't it?" she actually replied with a YES. she certainly takes the cake.

thank you again. i feel like i've been neglecting so many of my good friends here this last week or so. i'm finally coming around. thank you again for continued support!

kd

((((((((((((((((((((( RhysMadison )))))))))))))))))))))))))

thank you so much. this has been a work going on for about two years. sometimes she still knocks me on my butt, but it's less and less. ty again.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( janesgang )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

it's so good to see you! i hope you're well? i hope to see more of y'all.

thank you so much for your words of encouragement and pointing out that i AM making progress.

be safe,

kd

(((((( kd )))))
It sounds like you are busy but maybe this is a good thing. Sometimes busy keeps us distracted enough to stay focused. Just don't extend yourself out too far and get too tired.

Always here when you need or want to contact for support.

Take care.

place

thank you ((((((((((((((((( place )))))))))))))))))))))

i'm already tired. i just got a break from the baby for the nite, but have oldest over here in my bed with the flu poor thing. also, have to take hubby to urgent care or e.r. because his heart's had three episode in less than 24 hrs of skipping beats

he doesn't want to go, but i'm getting ready to have a COMPLETE hissy. i can't take the strain of it whether he can or not.

thank you again, hon. when this is over can i climb in bed for 24 hrs and someone take care of me??? i wish! that's my fantasy again right now.

kd

oh ((((((((((((((Kimmy))))))))))))))) I'm sorry you're daughter's ill with flu and I hope you don't catch it. I hope everything goes ok with your husband too... that must be so scary.

((((((((((((((((((((((((kim))))))))))))))))))))))
You are so brave and so strong and so wonderful. When I grow up, I wanna be just like you for real (nevermind that we are the same age ) I admire you friend. Keep on going. You're doing great.