[littlegirllost]

My current significent other has DID...He is not undergoing therapy currently. He wants to go about it his own way. He is afriad of hospitilizations and losing his job etc. he is currently under so much stress b/c of his new job, that he barely gets any sleep and his alts have taken over so much he is hardly even there. Im worried i could lose him! He is feeling at a loss himself , b/c the others are infighting so much within.
Im not completely sure what i can do to try to help him if even that. Is it possible that he could get worse? none of his alts are dangerous to the outside world and none have shown to be sucidal. But i am still worried. Any positive suggestions about self-soothing, stress managemaent etc. Or even positive stories about getting therapy would be helpful.
Please help me help him...

it is really admirable that you want to help him...i am not familiar with the disorder but i know there will be someone who can help you. i wanted you to know that someone read your post tonight. good luck, pat

[kimmydawn]

how wonderful that you're so supporting. i'm sorry for this hard time right now.

is he jounaling and allowing journaling right now? alot of times it's there that information comes out that's been upsetting and showing acting act...then it can be dealt with. however, mine's dealt with by a therapist.

i would HIGHLY suggest he finds another therapist who specialized in DID, trauma at the very least.

be safe,

kd

[Mahali]

You are very nice to be so supportive and understanding.

I agree with kd that journaling is the best way right now for everybody to communicate.

Try and help everybody to understand that communication and cooperation will make life a lot better for everybody there. It is good that nobody there is a danger to self or others.

Have him try and work out a schedule as much as he can. Reassure everybody of their right to time out and that everything will be done to get all needs met.

It sounds so simple when writing it down but it is a process and a lot of work. It is best done with a therapist who knows what he/she is doing as kd stated above.

Tell him others share the same fears but that it really does get better. It's noy easy but it is do-able. It will help that you are so understanding. Maybe if you go to counseling with him and learn how to help as much as possible. (Just a thought)

Well, I am rambling so good luck to you and all. Keep posting if it helps.

Take care.

[RhysMadison]

I commend you for supporting your SO. I'm DID so I know how hard it can be but I also know how much it means to your SO that you are sticking by him. We need security.
There are some forums out there you can check out that are for friends/ family of DID. I don't know of any off-hand. I had sent them to my husband & mom but have since deleted them. It helped them understand where I was coming from & that they weren't alone in their frustration. I'm not saying you can't be here, just giving you an option to go to other places as well. The more support you & he can get, the better. I would recommend he go to therapy. We can't do this alone. They will help him so he won't be hosp. & lose his job.
I wish you & your SO the best.
Love,
RhysMadison

LGL,

What a scary time to be going through with your SO. These two links are probably the best starting places for finding out more about DID and dissociative disorders. Good luck with this and please make sure to seek support for yourself as well. It is important to recognize that your efforts to assist him can take a large toll on you. Do what you can for him but make sure that you're taking care of you first.

The International Society for the Study of Dissociation info page

Sidran Bookshelf Catalogue by Subject on that page are links to more information about the disorder and treatment