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#1
Jul 28, 2009, 01:24 PM
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Hello, (Webber)Erik here.
(Hill)Erik, (Kay)Erik and I all have this problem, but it is the worst fror me. It was mentioned breifly on another post here, and we are very ashamed of this: we sometimes have urges about making love to The Host's mother. There. I said it. It is horrible and wrong, we know, but we can't seem to help it! I've even have dreams about it! We haven't told anyone about this, not even our wives, but we want this to go away!! No way in hell are we telling our T about this, because she thinks "We don't exsist"! We need help. Bad. (Webber)Erik
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Jul 28, 2009, 09:42 PM
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 Webber, Hill and Kay
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Jul 28, 2009, 10:59 PM
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I care but I don't have any answers except this: Feelings are feelings and having them is not the same as acting on them. You can acknowledge how you feel and then put your mind somewhere else and do not obsess on it.
If this doesn't help you need to find someone who can help you. We here can only offer support, not solutions. this technique does work for me when I get some feelings that creep me out. I acknowledge it, then do something else and move on and it does begin to decline in seriousness. Leslie/Pixies
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Jul 30, 2009, 12:47 PM
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Something that really has helped me...
I've been learning how to NOT JUDGE my feelings, to just let them be. I don't have to like them, I don't have to approve of them, I don't have to act on them. They just are. When I DON'T want to think about something, DON'T want to feel something...the more I try to push it away, the more energy I give it. Try to NOT think about pink elephants! Now - what just came into your head? If you got a pink elephant - that's what I'm talking about. When I try NOT to think about something, I'm automatically going to think about it. No judgement. Just thoughts. Just feelings. Transient, impermanent. Just let them be and let them float off. No need to invest our limited energy fighting. No need to act on them. No need to do anything other than notice them and let them move on. I have all SORTS of "inappropriate" thoughts and feelings and desires. Some of them are very persistent, and some may never disappear entirely. I used to think "I shouldn't think that" or "I hate it when I feel that". The more energy I put into denying those thoughts and feelings and impulses, the stronger they got and the worse I felt. As I practice not judging, as I practice letting them go, I find myself less bothered by them and less troubled.
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Jul 30, 2009, 01:01 PM
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Thank you to all of those who have replied!
The main problem is it goes away for a while, then comes back...it's a never ending cycle! (Webber)Erik
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