[complic8d]

I will see my t tomorrow, before she leaves on a 3 week vacation. (yikes!) I am feeling anything but adult and I'm afraid the child parts will be more present tomorrow. (abandonment issues--um, yeah)
Anyway, I was thinking of leaving a card with her, from my adult part, letting her know how much I wish for her to enjoy her vacation. It's how I want to feel, but not sure I will feel, tomorrow.
Does this sound like a good idea or not? I know she is worried about me but I want to let her know that at least some part of me is happy for her.
Just looking for some input, I really respect everyone's opinions here!
Thanks!

[Fox]

I think a card would be lovely. Maybe you could let your younger ones also make a card telling her how much they're going to miss her and that they can't wait for her to come back. It'll help acknowledge your younger parts' feelings and fears but let them be involved and help them remember that this isn't goodbye it's "see you in three weeks!"

[complic8d]

Thanks, Fox!!
I think she'll hear from my little ones enough tomorrow!
But, I am going to write a message in a notecard from the adult me.
Thanks for your input!

A note sounds like a great idea. We have done that on many occaisions with our T.
It's such a nice thing for you to want to do for your T.

[Fuzzybear]

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a note sounds good

[complic8d]

I did it! I gave her a notecard where I wrote my wish for her to have a great vacation. I signed it my name,(adult). I didn't let her open before I left, but I did explain that it was from the adult me. I even allowed myself to give her a hug (and receive one!). I'm going to miss her so much, but if I can keep my "adult mind" attitudes then I will be ok. (I have a hunch the littles are going to get pretty upset at some time, maybe my adult can talk to them?)
Anyway, thanks so much for your input. I may be asking for help getting through the next 3 weeks, I'll let you know.
for everyone!

[Fox]

Good job I'm proud of you. Don't hesitate to ask if you need extra support the next few weeks that's what we're here for ^^

[dreamland]

That sounds like a really nice idea.

We'll be here if you need us.
T must have loved the note!

the card sounds like a great idea.

our t was gone for over 3 weeks so it ended up being about 4 weeks between sessions...she went to s florida to visit her parents just as the hurricanes were heating up. so we left her a message asking if florida had put up signs telling her she was no longer allowed in state since she was bad for tourism there...no storms or anything all summer until she crossed state borders. and then continued on with does alaska and other snow states ban her due to avalanche dangers? cruises due to poiseden "morning after movie " disasters, islands for tsunamis, etc?

we got around the kid peep thing by having them ask her to send them a post card while she was away...which she did. they put it up on the fridge which is where it will sit probably for the next 90 years or so.

surprisingly we did well while she was away...no sadness, mishaps or anything..especially since we covered some primal memories in the weeks right before she left. actually feel stronger and calmer...i think the time away from t gave us time to sort of come to peace with everything on oiur own and let things settle...you know sometimes after you rehash these crappy memories you just have to let them sort of sift thru everyone and then make peace with them.

anyway...t said she enjoyed the message..so much so that her teenage daughter shot her a dirty look when she burst out laughing while listening to it in public on her cellphone. good...good to embarass t ...got to keep them humble!

[iamtwilight]

happy for you that it went so well

we're here listening and caring if you need. maybe you can let the little ones post in the garden when they feel upset? i know that for us it's a way to cheer them up a bit.

twilight

Our T sends postcards when he is away. It hepls us feel connected & that he is still "somewhere".
Maybe your little ones would like to make a card for T when she returns? Or just draw their feelings? Maybe you can do a little treat for the little ones...like making cookies or a new coloring book & crayons.
The time T is away may not be totally plesant, but it will pass and you will get through it. We'll be here.