[Fox]

grrrrawer!!!! I think mom was trying to be helpful but gosh she has a weird way of showing it. I asked her to look for a book while she was in California about DDs so I can understand what may be going on with me. I figure my T can't be doing all the work I have to help myself. My mom's getting fed all this crap right now from her sister and she's always showing off for her when they're together it's soooo annoying. I'm glad she's only there for a week. I'd hate to see how my aunt influenced mom if she were there much longer than that. Anyways mom couldn't find the book I asked for at Borders or Barnes and Noble. She obviously has been talking to my aunt about my childhood imaginary friend who came back with me my last trip to California. He's an imaginary friend not an alt or part of me at all. She sent me an e-mail to tell me about the book and some stuff she's done on her vacation. Then she started asking questions which really annoyed me.

Here I'll c+v them.

"How's Rocky doing? She's so cute like when you were little. Will Rocky ever grow up? Or does she like staying little, young, no extra responsibilities as a child and not really worrying about the future? Say Hi to her for me."

OMG how do you think Rocky's doing? Rocky's always fine, HE's imaginary.
How would you know, have you seeen Rocky? And he's a boy! If you think he's a cute little girl maybe you're the one who needs help.
If you knew anything about him you'd know he's always been grown up just is small because it makes it easier to do ninja things.
He's no reflection of me stop TRYING to shrink me!
He's not talking to you because you've offended him. And you hurt my feelings patronizing me! You don't understand anything about me and never cared to when we were little kids so why even bother now?

No I didn't answer like that. But I thought it very loudly in my head. Just aaaahg. I liked mom better when she didn't care about me or what's going on. And those are all questions my aunt asks so I KNOW where she's getting her "concerns" from. I like my aunt she cares and even though she tries to analyze me all the time she's always been like that and isn't just putting on some show for my mom.

Okay I'm good now thanks for listening. Hugs are appreciated <3

[kris9999]

(((((((((((((((( Fox )))))))))))))))))))

My mom has always BRAGGED about my DID and compared it to the movie "Identity" (a horror movie about DID)... It's frustrating!!!

Sorry you're going through this I hope you feel better soon!

I know my parents love me to death but it can be very annoying when they are pretty much clueless but act like they know everything. Granted, I don't tell them anything really because I'm scared it would hurt the relationship, so I can't really blame them. But still that doesn't change the fact that my mom mistakes my social anxieties for laziness and just being content being a child instead of growing up because she didn't push us hard enough growing up to really motivate us to be adults...also according to her I hate change and always have. okay, whatever you say mama.

[Fox]

Isn't it the parent's job to guide a child into adulthood? A plant won't grow in a dark closet so how can a person? I know everyone's different and some people do grow just fine without their parents being there for them. I was mom's security blanket all of my young life there was no room for change and growth because I didn't feel safe in any of that. Then all of a sudden she gets remarried (this was 11 years ago) and expected me to sleep in my own bed or under it where ever I ended up and since she didn't need me anymore I was expected to grow up and get married and make babies I'm 24 and none of that's happening. Being discarded like that was a shock on me. I don't understand how parents could be so clueless.

The only explanation is that they are human. I get the feeling if I had a child like me I would think and act a lot like my mother too. I'm sorry your mother treated you that way.