[onlymedid]

So, during T today there was a point where I could feel one of the littles (7 year old) was trying to come forward a little. I wouldn't let her...I can't. I trust T, but I don't trust losing control of myselves. This little has a very bad temper and if she doesn't get her way, she can turn on ya.
I was playing mancala with T and we were talking about past stuff when she decided to try to come forward a bit. I put a stop to it.

I let her play at home, I let her color, I let her watch cartoons and I talk to her. Why would she want to come out to T? She doesn't trust anyone....
Maybe I should write something down to give to T?

I am really confused and can't figure out if even telling T would be a good thing.

Any thoughts?

[crystalrose]

sometimes littles can trust T quickly. Maybe little thinks T needs to know something. Or maybe little wants to check that T is safe. The littles are used to making sure things are safe

[onlymedid]

Originally Posted by crystalrose

sometimes littles can trust T quickly. Maybe little thinks T needs to know something. Or maybe little wants to check that T is safe. The littles are used to making sure things are safe

Very true, sometimes they do trust quickly, but this T I have been seeing for a year and a half. Hmmm, maybe she does need to get something out. I might have to see if she will write out anything.

Thanks

[Kiya]

i think telling t that she wants to talk would be good - 7 has something to say, time to hear it. let t know what to expect from 7 and how t might help 7, thn let her talk. all in system are important and need to be heard
hugs!

There must be a reason for her to come out in T. Can you try to trust her and let her say what she needs to? Trust in yourself also.

[onlymedid]

Thanks. I will try. Maybe tonight I will sit down and see if she can write something to give to T.

[iamtwilight]

hope it works out littles have important things to say sometimes, they are usually the ones who hold the keys... that is exactly why i'm not in direct contact with them personally, hehe.

thinking of you all, it's been a while since you were around.

twilight

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( onlymedid )))))))))))))))))

onlymedid---littles have things to work out. it took a bit for mine to feel they could say something to T. T doesn't really work with children much so it was somewhat uncomfortable for her to work with my littles, but my 5 yr old was able to finally tell a secret that she has held. Another part of the puzzle put together.
Let her talk, write or what ever. It's amazing how their stories help fit the pieces.

[onlymedid]

Originally Posted by iamtwilight

hope it works out littles have important things to say sometimes, they are usually the ones who hold the keys... that is exactly why i'm not in direct contact with them personally, hehe.

thinking of you all, it's been a while since you were around.

twilight

Thanks! Work has been....complicated, life has been....even more complicated. Ignoring everything and everyone inside is easier than trying to deal with it. It has become too much, lately and I know that ignoring them is not the right thing. I am really trying not to block them out.

Yes, they do hold the keys. That is why I have such a hard time letting her talk...because I am afraid of what she holds. I am going to let her write and get it out.

FYI...she can't believe you remembered us!

[onlymedid]

Originally Posted by white_iris

onlymedid---littles have things to work out. it took a bit for mine to feel they could say something to T. T doesn't really work with children much so it was somewhat uncomfortable for her to work with my littles, but my 5 yr old was able to finally tell a secret that she has held. Another part of the puzzle put together.
Let her talk, write or what ever. It's amazing how their stories help fit the pieces.

Luckily for me, my T mainly works with littles. When we go in there the 7 year old gets excited because there are SO many cool toys and games. "I" don't play with them, but we do play the Mancala game. It's a game that gets my mind distracted, thus allowing me to talk more freely.

I am going to try to let her talk. She likes to color and draw, so maybe I need to break out the crayons and coloring books again!