[blackbelt]

I have a alter who is stuck in her time and era. I was thinking of trying to teach her about DID and then where she fits in with us through my counselor. What are some other ideas and ways to do it?

Erin

You are a complete person, separtely broken.
You have to be the Mother or Father that you would be
You must go back to each individual person
Hold them, tell them it's going to be alright
When the trust and believe you
Know that you are trust worthy
That you are not pretending are
going to change

Then you can take that one by the hand and walk her through the tramua they were stuck in.

They don't have to understand DID. They just have to grow from the point the tramua of which they stopped growing, and another one took over.

With each one you must do this

Being the parent is going to be the hardest of all

[blackbelt]

I can't actually speak with the alters honestly. It is something that I am working on but have not obtain yet.

Erin

[just2b]

try writing out questions for the alter that is stuck in time,that suggestion was given to me and it has helped me.

[anderson]

WE were lucky we had a few friends that were beside us so when an alter was stuck in time that person was with the body to help that part understand that it was safe now.Do u have someone that u trust to be with u to help each other? Good luck and may one of us here have the missing peace of the puzzle for u.

[WePow]

I suggest letting her come out with you while you are watching the TV or on the internet. Ask her to share with you what she remembers about things on TV such as what the commercials looked like or whatever it is. Even details like the type of clothes she remembers or the type of food cartons she had.

Doing basic daily things this way will show her (without telling her) that things are different. You will give her the things alters need to be able to figure out for themselves what the NOW is like:

1) Safety
2) Ability to state their truth without fear of rejection
3) A witness to their experience / reality
4) A place to explore the new world they find themselves in.

[Hunny]

I love the responses in this thread, so encouraging and filled with love...

Starlite, you have a way of putting things that make it all so do-able. Just2b, your sharing for others is so helpful. Anderson, your perseverance, trust and inclusion is contagious. WPowers, your ability to divide issues and willingness to share is generous.

Thank you, Blackbelt for asking this question. Maybe, the gift of time to this alter is all I would add from this vantage point.

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by blackbelt

I have a alter who is stuck in her time and era. I was thinking of trying to teach her about DID and then where she fits in with us through my counselor. What are some other ideas and ways to do it?

Erin

Yes most alters are stuck in their own time, this is what happens for most with DID due to the trauma that they have gone through.

Getting the awareness of that is the first step and working with your therapist further to learn more about it also. It's a whole new process of learning to trust and flourish.

Hugs

[blackbelt]

Originally Posted by wpowers

I suggest letting her come out with you while you are watching the TV or on the internet. Ask her to share with you what she remembers about things on TV such as what the commercials looked like or whatever it is. Even details like the type of clothes she remembers or the type of food cartons she had.

Doing basic daily things this way will show her (without telling her) that things are different. You will give her the things alters need to be able to figure out for themselves what the NOW is like:

1) Safety
2) Ability to state their truth without fear of rejection
3) A witness to their experience / reality
4) A place to explore the new world they find themselves in.

The problem is I have no connection with the alter. I can connect to one but that is it. When she comes out she thinks she is in our old house and when she went to see our T she thought she was in an old teachers office. So I was thinking of doing this with my T but the right way we could do it. I don't want to screw everything up. She did talk to my T. She didn't understand somethings though like when she wanted her to switch so someone could drive us home. She doesn't even know she is part of a system.

Erin