[thylacine]

hi, very new, just looking for a nudge in the right direction or something... my wife and i have been together for about 4 years, and i am unable to remember anything that she says or does at night, if she tries to wake me up, just to be sweet or something, i have no recollection, if she calls me at night, we will sometimes have full blown conversations and i can't recall a thing, not even mistaking it for a dream, sometimes, apparently i am harsh and rude, pulling away from her in bed and from what it sounds like, just being a jerk... I really have no idea what she's mad about when i get up, and i don't want her to think that i'm just "conveniently" forgetting things... i would if i could, but i can't... if anyone knows of anything i should look into, it would be a great help.

thanks.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by thylacine

hi, very new, just looking for a nudge in the right direction or something... my wife and i have been together for about 4 years, and i am unable to remember anything that she says or does at night, if she tries to wake me up, just to be sweet or something, i have no recollection, if she calls me at night, we will sometimes have full blown conversations and i can't recall a thing, not even mistaking it for a dream, sometimes, apparently i am harsh and rude, pulling away from her in bed and from what it sounds like, just being a jerk... I really have no idea what she's mad about when i get up, and i don't want her to think that i'm just "conveniently" forgetting things... i would if i could, but i can't... if anyone knows of anything i should look into, it would be a great help.

thanks.

Im sorry but I cant tell you what this can be or even hazard a guess because this website does not allow members to diagnose other peoples problems. If you google the words memory problems you will find over a thousand different things this problem of yours could be. the best way I can point you in the right direction is to tell you to schedule an appointment with your physician. that doctor can then do all kinds of tests and also set you up with a psychiatrist who can do even more tests. between the two types of doctors they should be able to give you a good idea of what this problem can be, whether its sleep talking, amnesia, degenerative brain cell disease mental disorders what ever.

[wanttoheal]

Hi thylacine,
Welcome to Psych Central.
My son is like that. He sleeps very deeply and I have had to wake him up in the morning and we carry on a conversation, I think he is awake and then come back later and he is sleeping (and often late to where he needs to be). He has no memory of the conversation or anything, even though he seemed to me to be wide awake. Sometimes he is grumpy, sometimes not. It can be frustrating to me, but I know he isn't doing it on purpose. To him, he just woke up and he doesn't know why I'm frustrated.

I'd definitely try to let your wife know that it's not something you are doing on purpose and if this is interfering with your well being (or your wife's ), it might be a good idea to go get checked out. Please let us know how you get on and again, welcome to Psych Central.

[WePow]

It may help you to start keeping a journal of what happens each night.
Also if your wife can record you, that may help you get a better grasp on things.
And be sure to find a therapist if you do not have one. They are trained to be able to help people understand what is going on.

[anderson]

Yes we agree with wpowers. by keeping a journal with both yours and your wife's input it will help you see a pattern and help the T to understand more fully what is going on and what is triggering it. This will also help your wife see that you are trying to put a stop to something that is truely bothering her good luck and may you find peace.

[Crew]

I too agree with powers in that journaling and keeping a detail record of it but asking your wife if she would because when you see a doctor ever for this you will have some documention versus the doctor telling you to write it down and then have to pay for it and deal with it until the next time you see your doctor.

Good luck and to PyschCentral!!!

I hope you find what the heck is going on....ThaCrew

[Hunny]

You may also want to post this question in the sleep and dream forum and General Forum and see if there are any others with ideas. Do you have a therapist that you might ask too?

Originally Posted by thylacine

hi, very new, just looking for a nudge in the right direction or something... my wife and i have been together for about 4 years, and i am unable to remember anything that she says or does at night, if she tries to wake me up, just to be sweet or something, i have no recollection, if she calls me at night, we will sometimes have full blown conversations and i can't recall a thing, not even mistaking it for a dream, sometimes, apparently i am harsh and rude, pulling away from her in bed and from what it sounds like, just being a jerk... I really have no idea what she's mad about when i get up, and i don't want her to think that i'm just "conveniently" forgetting things... i would if i could, but i can't... if anyone knows of anything i should look into, it would be a great help.

thanks.