[just2b]

Had t session today, and we talked about child parts. Does anyone have child parts that find it difficult to leave T at end of session? if you do how do you soothe those parts? Being in child parts is it always happy? Found out today I dont like to be in child part. thanks

[Miri]

Yes, yes and YES!
Soothing? Sometimes we color and that helps. We color mandalas because they have no theme, many children can share the task and the adults deal with it better than a coloring book. You can find mandalas to color on-line and print them off.
This is just one idea, I hope others have more. It isn't very easy for us, trying to be adults and children at the same time, honoring everyone and their needs. It takes a lot of energy, so be kind to yourself and know that many of us struggle with this issue.
In time, as the children learn to trust that T will be there when they return, they will start to relax some. And it helps, too, once they've told their story. Mine seem to have this deep need to be heard and once that happens, they recede a bit. But remember, it takes time and patience for these things to happen. In the meantime, I send you courage and strength and hope, and hugs if safe.

Originally Posted by just2b

Had t session today, and we talked about child parts. Does anyone have child parts that find it difficult to leave T at end of session? if you do how do you soothe those parts? Being in child parts is it always happy? Found out today I dont like to be in child part. thanks

I believe I like my child parts best. They are the closest to the source of my heart.
They are the ones that knew, saw etc it all. They are the ones that inside are still pure, sweet and true.
I give to my littles all the time. I feel comfortable by their small tokens.
I keep a tiny bear in my purse, when I feel not an adult, yet in the moment of one, I put my hand in my purse and grasps him tight.

The little ones are great. When your'e alone, close to bed time, in bed. You can squeeze a pillow, a stuffed animal anything you want and that is whole I am at that moment my little. And she smiles.

I do hear you though leaving an intense session when the child came out, now you have to put them away so the adult can make the way home - is very difficult, very very difficult. It's like I'm driving and not even there.
Immediately after a session I go straight home.
Saddley by then the little ones have hidden in the dark and I am stuck with who ever I am.

Sound confusing - confuses me too.