is so hard.....

If you are not con-conscious we are sad because we loose time and space which scare us to death,when you start be co-concussion it scare us too I been feeling what others are feeling I told my T that last week she said I need to get used to it.

But how long that will take. Can I hurt or been by others and don't know what to do, is like a new dimension . I have an alter friend who was gone idk if he integrate with the body..how we know that. One of my alters is around 80 yrs old which I love dearly is she going first. Is so hard.

Can anyone explain to me your experience or what you think ty ?

Genn

Genn, a part of being co-conscious is when the alters are able to talk with you and you with them. For us, I liked that part the very best. Still trying to get my mind around the blending of memories and emotions that has happened. You can do it if that is what you really want. But it is hard to know what was kept from you for a good reason. But the adult mind can take it.

Is the adult mind that is having this hard time of integration.Not all alters are able to talk to me or me talk to them this is just starting. Mayb is the part of of blending that is getting confuse and scared. that is good, your experience about how you enjoy blending memories and emotion of what happen. manu studies shows that in many is did this can be a really traumatic experience.
Right now I am confuse abut what I want in both experience I am having a bad time an is the adult mind that is in so much confusion an pain.

Genn ... I am not sure what to say except to just try to be gentle with yourself and go slow. And let the alters share what they need to share. This is not an easy battle for me right now - not sure what others suggest.

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Hi,
I am snow I am lillys alter and I wanted to say some thing. Every "alter" has its own things to say and do. Wether you chouse to believe that every thing happens for a reason it is up to you. It is hard to realize but if you want to think of it this way that we are friends that are ment for you and will help you and have helped you a great deal, but we do take a bit of diffulculty. Wile we help you you must deal with us. Like you want all the joys of life but that means you get the stress to. It is worth it. Some of us are here to pretect you wile others to tell you things atill others that seem to be there just fo r"fun " but have a reason. Times for every one become hard. Wile your problems may be diffrent then others they are still problems. Take every day step by step and lison and remember. But one thing about the buttey of being human is forgeting. it is a gift. always remember the joy in life and keep going. Also I want you to promies to be nice to the alters youy have. what they think they are and what you think about them may be diffrent. but it is the chouse of a life time. Remember that every thing and every one has a right to be lisoned to and respected. it is importent for you to treat them with respect. They are there to help you.

I wigh you well and hope you aceve the best,

Snow

TY lyleaf, your words really comfort me..is true I need to take a good care of them even if they are mean to us.

I hope this stage pass fast .

ty
genn

ty we pow you words also confort me !!!

Genn sorry things are so hard
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angel
hey my kids ask how u are
tc ok be gentle to YOU

((((genn))))

Thank you for posting. Co-consciousness is when we can listen and be a part of what is taking place. To be able to let those within come forth but to be there with them. It takes time for each one to trust just as we have to learn to trust. Sometimes it takes longer for the ones that hold things that are deep within to keep us safe until we are ready to hear those things.

Within our system, we have one who knows when I am able to listen and accept what they have to give me. It seems that there has been an order that has needed to take place in order for it to get to where we are now. I know that Dark and Death had to come together first in order for me to not feel the need to end. From there others have come in way that I was ready to hear what they had to say.

To be co-conscious, we are willing to accept them for who they are and to be present with them. I think it is different from blending in that blending is the coming together and sharing both the memories and the feelings. It is a process, one that takes time and lots of work. I know for us, we are somewhere between the co-conscioueness and possibly the start of blending.

When I got co-consciousness, I began to realize the others existed. I began to hear them and to talk with them. But now it is different in that all within have that co-consciousness of one another. At first they all thought they were alone and held things no one else knew. Now they are talking amongst themselves and they realize for the first time that they all share memories, either together or alone. But that they are not alone within.

This was a shock to all and still we are trying to figure this all out. It is hard and painful, but it is something that we have to face. It has no time for each one is different. Being gentle with yourself is key and not pushing too hard. Allowing yourself time to listen and accept too. For me, I am now getting everyones memories and the chatter within is almost too much at times.

They need to be heard and know that it is okay for them to share. For so long they did not know one another existed so this is hard for them too but at the same time it is sorta a relief for us all. Everyone is different and the key thing is to remember it took time to get to where we are and it will take time to heal. There is no instruction manual to follow. It is what you can accept as well as the others.

We all did not learn to trust so it stands to reason that even those within would have a hard time trusting. But it is possible to build that trust slowly. Remember to breathe and that together you can accomplish this. We are here listening and hearing you. What you are feeling is okay and I validate what you feel.

Be kind to you and remember to take breaks where you need them. Know that we are here for you. I do not know if what I said makes any sense. right now we are in a raging storm ourselves and it is hard sometimes to see where we are or where we are going. But I know that we are right where we are suppose to be. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps

Genn,

Thank you for sharing...thank you! You are doing so well, all of your parts and we respect you and pray you keep safe while you are working through everything.

Take the time you need, it can be a long journey and safe fun is allowed.

I look forward to reading your posts.

Hunny

Genn - hope today is better for you. It is a daily walk with who we are.