[AkAngel]

Recently Michelle421 started a thread entitled, ‘Benefits of being multiple’, which inspired this thread. Though we are not together any longer, I once was in a relationship with a woman with DID and though there were challenges, there were also aspects of the dynamic that I considered benefits. And so, here is my list of ‘benefits of being with a multiple’.

• You have a ready-made family. Though there were some doubters who were not all that sure about me in the beginning, for the most part I inherited a family who loved me.
• There was always a kid to play with. I love children and I’m pretty good at getting in touch with that part of myself. Most adults, in my opinion, take themselves way too seriously. I have degree’s in both math and physics, a successful career, am a published author etc. but never did lose the ability to enjoy coloring or swinging on a swing set. When I wanted to play, I always had a playmate.
• I look at things uniquely and understanding my point of view is often challenging and anti-intuitive. Usually there was someone who could understand me and help explain my point of view to everyone else.
• Conversely, I often have a hard time understanding others points of view, and there always seemed to be someone around to help me see it from another perspective.

There are more I know, feel free to add some. Some I left out because of time…others because they might not be appropriate, but still real.

[michelle421]

thanks for sharing, akangel. i do like to acknowledge the positive aspects of my relationship with my partner, and all the others with her.

i enjoy being part of a community! - i love and appreciate the family we all have together (with the cats too! )

i am inspired by their creativity - everyone is different, and i love them for their uniqueness. i have many interests too, so it's great to have many friends with different talents and interests so close to me!

i feel grateful to have so many teachers. my partner and her alters have taught me so much about life. i have been challenged and validated in numerous ways, and that helps all of us grow. i feel honored to be able to spend time with each one.

i truly feel special because they have all let me into their lives together. i know that they have had a hard life, and i am so incredibly grateful that I get to have this special connection love!

i would like to have this thread to come back to when i want to remind myself of all the wonderful things. i hope to come back and add more things to the list too.

[Lillyleaf]

I dont like being DID lol but I think there are good things and bad. thank you for being so supportive both of you

Lilly