Feeling sad about elsie. I don't know how to feel. It is sad that elsie had to grow up too soon, sad that elsie's parents needed elsie to be the parent because of the way their parents (well, <font color="red">HER </font> parents) behaved.

<font color="red">SHE</font> was abandoned by <font color="red">HER</font> parents, disowned by them, but as an adult. Knowing how much this must have hurt <font color="red">HER </font> , I can't understand how <font color="red">SHE</font> could emotionally abandon elsie, <font color="red">HER </font> own daughter. How could <font color="red">SHE</font> stop speaking to elsie, just as the grandparents stopped talking to <font color="red">HER </font> ? How could <font color="red">SHE</font> threaten to leave, make elsie plead with <font color="red">HER </font> , when <font color="red">SHE</font> had watched the grandparents turn their backs on <font color="red">HER </font> ?
I don't understand it. I am not angry - that is Shula's job - just sad for elsie. elsie needs looking after, but there was no-one there to do that for her. She had to look after them instead.

Caroline

UH?? i think i'm confused. but whatever, here's a hug for all of you.
((((((((((elsie)))))))))))
((((((((((Caroline))))))))
it's really hard when there's no one to care for you or look after you. we know that feeling really well.
w_i

[Mahali]

I think I understand and I am sorry. How could she turn and do what was done to her? Is this right?

The pattern repeats. It often does. I am sorry that it does.

place

[shadowdancer]

i know what you're saying...and i've been there too. i don't know why she's done that to you or to elsie. it's wrong and selfish, IMO. ((((((((((elsie))))))))))))
((((((((((caroline)))))))))))))

i wish i could make HER see what she's done/doing. stay safe. take care of you.

Yeah, that's right.
Mum's parents rejected her - as an adult, after she got married.
Mum rejected me - though that may be a strong word for it, cos it was more minor episodes of rejection. But she didn't talk to be when I did something she didn't like, and I remember persuading her not to leave home.

And the pattern repeating was my terror all through my childhood.
C

[Fuzzybear]

I certainly relate to being rejected by parents And it is so sad how patterns repeat. But, you are breaking the pattern, and talking about it is a good start! I know you wouldnt reject your children,

Bearhugs,
Fuzzy