 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
#1
Jul 15, 2010, 08:56 PM
|
|||
|
|||
|
i am not sure yet..but think i have a male alter...a teenager...and lately i find myself looking a other women.kinda like i am undressing them with my eyes...and i am co conscious and urgue with this alter. anyone have alters that are male...how do u deal with them?? thanks!!
|
|
#2
Jul 15, 2010, 09:32 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Quote:
Hi Yes I have some teenage male alters but being I am lesbian my issues with this usually ccome from my female alters looking and being attracted to males so I get where you coming ffrom I guess them looking iisnt harming anything I made it clear to my females tthat if they are out there is no "fooling" around with maless or they will not be allowed out again and that seems to work mostly for us not sure if that helps or not.. |
|
#3
Jul 16, 2010, 02:50 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
We do have male alters but most of the time they are the protectors. We did have some issues when we were re-intergrating but we made it clear that the body is female and that the majority ruled on the fact that we want to have sex with a male only. The few times that we did have sex with a female it was because the person had pushed our panic buttons.
In the past when we had first gotten serverly abuse some parts did have solo time with their partners but when we got co-con again it was very scary for the younger parts to share that information so to keep internail peace all accepted the fact that the host was female and that we are more comfortable with male/female only sex. it takes time but when those within are working together the greater good for all does get easer to fallow through.
__________________
Sometimes the only way to find freedom is to fight for it, even unto death! Because no form of abuse transcends pass it! To live free and with hope is still the greatest gift of life!- anderson .gif "Boy Angel")
|
|
#4
Jul 16, 2010, 05:12 PM
|
||||
|
||||
|
I have a teen male alter.
__________________
It is a miracle that I have survived thus far and I strive to help others see miracles in every day life.
|
|
#5
Jul 25, 2010, 05:48 AM
|
||||
|
||||
|
Hello.
Look at our profile and you will know...our system is swarming with male "alters", myself included. *laughs* How do deal with us, you ask? I can only tell you from my piont of view--the male "alter" point of view-- sadly, but I do hope it'll help some. 1) I have to watch my voice when I'm out; it has to sound as close to the core's as possible, if not EXACTLY like hers. I can pull it off quite easily, but poor (Yeston), (Webber), and (Hill)Erik seem to have difficulties. 2) I have to be ready to switch (or pass the baton as our T says) right away to a female "alter" if I get hit below the belt, as they say. This is very important, I assume you know why *chuckles*. 3) As for looking at women...I think we all look at the same sex from time to time, to compare our looks to theirs, to feel better about ourselves. So as long as he dosen't stare too long, he should be fine (though only male "alters" that have homo/bi sexual orientation cores should flirt, in my honest opinion. As I said, I do hope this helps. Take the greatest care. (Kay)Erik
__________________
"We don't have a problem with us, the world does." ~(Webber)Erik @~~~%~~~ |
 anderson
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
