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Sep 17, 2005, 06:20 AM
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have to get this off my chest. .I went to a GYN appt. because it had been about 15 years. I knew it was going to be tough. First you have these questions fired off at you, you answer and then get the funny looks and suspicion and that raises more questions, plus the Dr. repeats all his most humiliating questions as if to trip up the witness to get a diferent answer- like maybe you're a lier.
He tells me all this stuff and tests to get done and how hes removing something here , and something about breast exam and not smooth- and he takes me for a moron by telling me dont worry about the big lumps - thats just your ribs lol- yes he made a funny- Im in my 40s, I cant give a complete history , then there was ECT for 2 years that erased even more, then you feel like hes calling you slut telling about an abortion and I cant remember what year it happened, then what month of the pregnancy ( jeeziz it was in the 70s isnt that close enough) and you dont talk in an office, he doesnt introduce himself, he takes a phone call in another room and Im there in a sheet cooling my heels for 20 minutes, and dont they know we become automatically almost deaf when being told instructions while a hand is up there and poking around and pushing on you? so there it is- how wonderfull to have this managed care insurance Dr. who never even heard of dissociation much less cracked open a DSM. Thanks for listening. now I go for more humiliation in my own best interest in a few weeks. 
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Sep 17, 2005, 06:25 AM
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(((((((((kathyanita)))))))))
Yikes. what a bumbling stupid way (on the doctor's part) to do all of that. how inconsiderate. they treat you like some kind of prize cattle and don't think twice about it. i understand that docs have lots of patients but when they are in a room with you then -you- should be the only patient they're focusing on and they should treat you like a person. i'm sorry you had to go through that. i bet had the roles been reversed then that doc would feel much the same way you do. perhaps he should think about that.  i hope you have good things to do and think about after that awful appt. maybe read a good book, watch a funny movie, write, draw/paint... something to make you feel like a person again. good luck with your next appt. i hope it is better than this one was!-shadow
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Sep 17, 2005, 06:37 AM
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oh, thanks for understanding. . . and this is what good thing Im doing afterwards - coming here and talking about it and asking ( maybe only implying) for this support. .
I'd like to tell this Dr I saw his head ex-ray and the good news/bad news is they've found what appears to be a small particle of brain lodged in his head. . . now THATS funny. . . |
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Sep 17, 2005, 06:50 AM
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hahahaha! you're right it is! then maybe you should call him back after telling him that and say "oops, sorry. it was just a smudge on the X-rays...no sign of your brain ANYWHERE!" lol
maybe you should write him a letter of cutting remarks that only you read  that could be fun and take out some of your anger and frustration too! i'm glad you came here. (((((kathyanita))))) and i hope we can all be very supportive of you right now. -shadow
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Sep 17, 2005, 09:30 AM
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Kathy, what a horrible man. Can you find a different doctor? I would gladly take you to my new gyn, she's wonderful. Having only been twice myself, she has always made me feel very comfortable. She explains everything. Answers all my questions and is really nice.
It doesn't sound like this new doc is a good fit for you. Perhaps checking around and finding another one would be good. I hope things work out better next time, either way. The gyn is a scary place.
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Sep 17, 2005, 09:50 AM
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((((((((((((((((kathyanita)))))))))))))))))
i'm so sorry. it's been about six years for me and i've been having pain abdominally. i know i need to go soon, but can't bring myself to do it. i'm sorry he was such a jerk. the doctor i last saw was WONDERFUL. she treated me like a child when i was there (was i one?). i even sent both of my young daughters to her. i think the reason that i'm waiting is...if i ever go back, i'll have to explain the dissociation, maybe even as far as the DID. i've NEVER done that...ever. i'm so sorry that it was such a bad experience  is there another dr in the area for you?please be kind to selves right now. love, kd
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Sep 17, 2005, 10:38 AM
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((((((((((((kathyanita)))))))))))))) What a jerk that Dr was! I am so sorry you had to go through that. It's been 8 years for me but I have no memory outside of what the front office looks like. I wish I had words of advice. I can only say, I understand and I am so sorry that it happened like that. Please take care.
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Sep 17, 2005, 11:23 PM
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I so gratefull to you all for just the understanding and relating - its like I can be realized back into my own flesh from being heard . . thanks
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