[mtex]

I just learned that not everyone has dissociation. I learned it in childhood and have found it very useful over the years. now i see it is considered a disorder. I do it a lot but less if my depression meds are right. I can still do it when i want. am i missing some kind of reason not to do it? I can easily muffle those around me if they are speaking. i never can recall what they said or if i responded. What is wrong with that? it kicks in automatic in stress situations why is there anything wrong with it?

[peejcrafter]

It sounds a lot like what I have. It started in childhood for me. I thought everybody had the same thing especially when under stress, mtex. I don't personally think there's anything wrong with it, since the psyche needs to survive. peej

[Lillyleaf]

it is bad when it interfears with your life. For me, I know that when I run into a situation that isnt safe I dissoceate witch insnt always the best thing. SOmetimes I dissoceate with out even meaning to. I keeps me from being able to learn to cope. Dissoceation is a good coping skill to a point I think. You have to learn how to cope in a healthy way because dissoceation is just "ignoring or covering up the problem" it is the many ways to do one thing. Like a puzzal. you have to have a lot of diffrent coping skills and sometimes dissoceation gets in the way.. it is just what I think,
I wish you the best,
Jenny

[peejcrafter]

Originally Posted by Lillyleaf

it is bad when it interfears with your life. For me, I know that when I run into a situation that isnt safe I dissoceate witch insnt always the best thing. SOmetimes I dissoceate with out even meaning to. I keeps me from being able to learn to cope. Dissoceation is a good coping skill to a point I think. You have to learn how to cope in a healthy way because dissoceation is just "ignoring or covering up the problem" it is the many ways to do one thing. Like a puzzal. you have to have a lot of diffrent coping skills and sometimes dissoceation gets in the way.. it is just what I think,
I wish you the best,
Jenny

Hi Jenny. The subject of coping skills is a big one, for me anyway. I'm an old bag and have suffered from dissociation (not DID) my whole life. I have severe memory impairment which makes it more complicated. I was told DBT wasn't helpful, due to memory. I guess the thing is that we each have our own perspectives on the subject and differing experiences and for me, dissociation is just one of many problems affecting me. Don't pay any serious attention to my perspective. We are able to respect one another's opinions, thoughts etc.. and accept differing views. It sure is a big part of making it through my life! Take care as always peej

[sunnygirl1uk]

i dissassociate so much i dont remember what in truthfully has happened to me, sometimes im aware that it has happened but at other times im not aware of it. Dissassociation is recking my life. As well as the DiD.

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((mtex))))

Thank you for posting. I find myself dissociating still also but I am trying to keep myself present more. Dissociating back as a child when things were so bad that it kept me safe and helped me survive was a good thing. Even at times today it can be a good thing. But too often I feel for myself anyways, that when I dissociate now I cannot keep myself out of harms way not knowing what is taking place so that I can stay in control.

When I leave myself I cannot get myself to safety or make the decisions I need to make. Not knowing what is going on leaves me open to being hurt and retraumatized today. It is hard at times to be present as for all my life I have left and someone else has stepped forth to take what I could not. But I am learning that now it is for the best to be present.

Those within only know what they know. When I stepped back and sometimes still I am unaware of it, but am getting more co-consciousness as time goes on, I am not able to keep things from happening or knowing what is happening. This is causing problems as I lose time and am unsure of what happens when I am not there.

It is not easy but something I am working on so that I know when danger is present and I can know who and what is taking place. I have been attacked and I have no memory of what took place and cannot tell anyone. I know that those within are scared and many times feel that they cannot tell still. I think threats are still held over them.

I guess for us me being more present so that I can have that knowledge is important to stopping what is going on. It takes time and it is scary. For so long the safest thing was to get away inside deep. Now it is many times hendering my safety. Losing time and dissociating for myself leaves me in the dark. I am unable to sometimes even remember what took place during the day or week.

I think everyone dissociates to a degree. Many daydream, or get lost in their thoughts, and block out. Dissociation allows us to get away when we need to. It is not a bad thing until it interferes with taking care of you. It is hard for me because not knowing creates a lot of anxiety for me and asking questions of how did that happen? Did I go to my appointment? Where did that come from?

It is different for each person but for me it is something I am working on not doing so much so that I have more control and can know what is taking place. Thank you again for posting and I hope that this makes sense. Seems right now my words are hard to reach to. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps