[volatile]

I realize I'm dissociating a lot more than I would consider normal for me. I didn't do it enough to have a disorder or anything but I think now maybe I do. It happens a lot, like if I'm in a conversation I'm very uncomfortable in I dissociate, or any stressful or nerve racking situation.
The other day I was in a car that got pulled over and I had a bottle of liquor in the car that was open. The cops started harassing me about it and I just blacked out, I only remember bits and pieces of it. My friend had to tell me what happened and had to tell me what the cops said. The only thing I remember about it really was they thought I was on dope and shinned a flash light in my eyeballs and the other cop said I didn't understand English.

[Irine]

so sorry it happened to you. Hope you get to recall it fully and recover...i mean heal. I too have crap like that - only that i now have flash backs of that.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by volatile

I realize I'm dissociating a lot more than I would consider normal for me. I didn't do it enough to have a disorder or anything but I think now maybe I do. It happens a lot, like if I'm in a conversation I'm very uncomfortable in I dissociate, or any stressful or nerve racking situation.
The other day I was in a car that got pulled over and I had a bottle of liquor in the car that was open. The cops started harassing me about it and I just blacked out, I only remember bits and pieces of it. My friend had to tell me what happened and had to tell me what the cops said. The only thing I remember about it really was they thought I was on dope and shinned a flash light in my eyeballs and the other cop said I didn't understand English.

Question - you had an open bottle of liquor in the car with you. Am I right is drawing the conclusion that one or both of you in the car were drinking the liquor?

Reason I ask is because black outs from drinking can mimic dissociation time loss.

the drinking can also increase a persons dissociation problems.
drinking lowers a persons inhibitions and judgement. that puts a person in situations that may not always be comfortable. when a person has dissociation problems already, landing in uncomfortable situations when drinking causes stress and anxiety which leads to dissociating.

My suggestion "if" you were part of drinking the liquor you might try going at it sober for a bit and see if that makes a difference in your dissociating. Sometimes doing this can be hard on people so I would also like to suggest attending some AA meetings or seeing a therapist. that way if you have any side effects from not drinking they can help you.

Another suggestion - After reading some of your other posts I know you have someone in your life who is a very avid drinker/alcoholic. The stress, anxiety and unpredictability of a relationship like this can also cause a dissociative to have an increase in their dissociation symptoms.you cant force the alcoholic into treatment but you can seek help for yourself so that the stress and other problems with having a relationship with an alcoholic wont be causing you to be dissociating as much.

[volatile]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

Question - you had an open bottle of liquor in the car with you. Am I right is drawing the conclusion that one or both of you in the car were drinking the liquor?

Reason I ask is because black outs from drinking can mimic dissociation time loss.

the drinking can also increase a persons dissociation problems.
drinking lowers a persons inhibitions and judgement. that puts a person in situations that may not always be comfortable. when a person has dissociation problems already, landing in uncomfortable situations when drinking causes stress and anxiety which leads to dissociating.

My suggestion "if" you were part of drinking the liquor you might try going at it sober for a bit and see if that makes a difference in your dissociating. Sometimes doing this can be hard on people so I would also like to suggest attending some AA meetings or seeing a therapist. that way if you have any side effects from not drinking they can help you.

Another suggestion - After reading some of your other posts I know you have someone in your life who is a very avid drinker/alcoholic. The stress, anxiety and unpredictability of a relationship like this can also cause a dissociative to have an increase in their dissociation symptoms.you cant force the alcoholic into treatment but you can seek help for yourself so that the stress and other problems with having a relationship with an alcoholic wont be causing you to be dissociating as much.

I had half a drink about an hour before we got pulled over (so about one shot?). I highly doubt it could of affected me that bad. If I thought it was simply the alcohol then I wouldn't of posted this to begin with. I've had hundreds of talks about alcohol and how it causes black outs, but not enough talks about blacking out when I'm sober. No one ever thinks it happens to me when I'm sober. It's frustrating. It happens all the time. I DO NOT drink all the time.

I don't date the drunk anymore and i haven't talked to him in a couple of days. He's still drinking and he has become so clingy it makes me sick, and I'm not addicted to alcohol BTW, but thanks for looking out.

[invisigirl]

I don't think amandalouise was saying that you were drunk or that you may be an alcoholic. I think the point she was making is that even a little bit of alcohol CAN affect your ability to stay present. Even just one drink can make you more likely to dissociate. It may not cause you to black out, like being really drunk can, but for a person who has problems with dissociating, it can aggravate it and make it more likely to happen. Does that make sense?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by invisigirl

I don't think amandalouise was saying that you were drunk or that you may be an alcoholic. I think the point she was making is that even a little bit of alcohol CAN affect your ability to stay present. Even just one drink can make you more likely to dissociate. It may not cause you to black out, like being really drunk can, but for a person who has problems with dissociating, it can aggravate it and make it more likely to happen. Does that make sense?

exactly my point thanks for the help.