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Dec 17, 2010, 09:38 AM
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When it comes to alters...... and systems...... Who is the strongest?
the kids? the angries? the quiets? the non verbals (that hurt) dont know if there are any real grown ups yet. etc...... I suppose each person is different that why it stupid question. |
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Dec 17, 2010, 10:33 AM
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Lots of internal communication going on. It''s like in the family of origin and present family. Sometimes the strongest one is the who is in most distress or the one who counter balances the one in distress for me. There is an ability, presently, to call-on an adult or two, especially an adult that goes to work.
With this question it appears you are doing much in the way of inner communication. It is a long process. It is such a good question, Possum. You are not alone  .
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Dec 17, 2010, 12:21 PM
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...good to hear from yaa possum.....thanks hunny....
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Dec 17, 2010, 01:00 PM
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Second, for me it is not only dependent on each person but on each situation. I am usually the strongest overall as I stay out the most, but my protector is strong and is the strongest when we feel threatened. My littles tend to be the strongest when we are scared or when we are playing. I kinda think that the person whose main job was to deal with that situation or that emotion is still the strongest whenver that emotion or similar situation comes up again. imho...Dawn |
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Dec 17, 2010, 03:23 PM
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Not stupid at all
 It will also depend on what you are classifying as "strongest". The most aggressive? The best able to deal with crisis? The one most able to stand firm against a parent? I think these could well be different parts. I also consider other things "strong" but in a different way. Eg the one most able to comfort self feels strong and important. The one who is around the most would "feel" strong also. The one with the most courage to say a truth is strong as well. lol I guess I'm thinking that many different parts bring great strength to me. What a complex and interesting question!
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.  Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there. Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so. 
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Dec 17, 2010, 04:05 PM
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It is not a stupide question, I wonder this my self a lot of the time.
I find that the Angrers, haev a tendency to have very good controle, if that is what you mean by strong. But usally it has something to do with emotions. If little is upset for me they will be able to over power my anger. But it depends. If you mean strongest for anyother reason, such as saviving, well everyone is strong in there own way. I wish you the best. Keep asking questions  ~Jenny
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Dec 17, 2010, 08:38 PM
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I really appreciate each response. They have clarified things for me. Issues got buried inside me, cos I didn't want to deal with outcome. Unfortunately it keeps on popping up. I have talked to my p'doc about it. I truly don't understand, or be able to feel what he is feeling. Mostly I understand numb.
But I was finding that if I let this issue see the light of day then I was/am in need of help. And it is a strong part. Maybe not right, but strong. I think I need to accept the help that is on offer before the stronger part gets the better of me. Thanks for helping me see in the dark.......
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Dec 17, 2010, 09:05 PM
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ohh so you mean strong as in this part has a lot of influence over you? if so, i can understand that. sounds like it would be wise to accept the help that's been offered to you. take safe and gentle care of you. keep talking, talking helps.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him. Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there. Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Dec 18, 2010, 10:27 AM
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Spot on dino.......
but if I let them talk I will be in the poop. and shrink will land on me like a tonne of bricks..... I dont want to tell on them cos they go away and I have to deal with my pdoc. Its all a can of worms.......... |
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