[Monty_girl]

Today I planned to go to yoga class but I ended up not going because I'm in so much pain. Instead of coming home and resting my mother calls. I ended up on the phone with her for an hour trying to reason with her why she needs therapy. I even had her get her insurance card out and get the phone number off the back so she would call tomorrow. I'm laying there in pain telling her I'm in pain and trying to rest and she won't shut up. I tried to tell her she's not going to be able to go to me about things. I have enough to deal with to stop and help her every other day. If she doesn't make an apointment with a T I'm making one for her. She say's she wants to go, but her getting up and actually doing something is a different story. She would much rather call me and tell me how upset and depressed she is and have me fix it for her. I told her tonight I can't do it anymore. She has to get a therapist that she can go to. Someone who's not emotionally involved. I can't be there to comfort her thru my brothers illness. I need comforting myself. I pretty much told her how it was. But I feel like I've had to mother her yet again. She needs to get a therapist and learn how to take care of herself.

That's my whining for tonight. I'm tried and I'm in pain. And I'm just
Monty

{{{{{ Monty }}}}}

You are not whining. Your plate is full and spilling over.

It's okay. Let it spill.

Take care,

Petunia

[Monty_girl]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ Petunia }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Thank You

Just feel like sitting in the corner and going "La La LA la La"

I like La-la's.

[wisewoman]

with my hands over my ears. la la la la la.

Monty,

I soooo understand mothering the mother-- I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.

I think it is very strong of you telling her to get help and not letting her use up your energy! That's a great step- IMO (it sure would be for me)
t/c

mandy

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((((((((((monty)))))))))))))))))))) i'm so proud of you! good knowing yourself and your boundaries! you've always done so good with that!

i hope she heeds your advice. have a great nite hon.

love you,

kd

[Zorah]

(((((Monty))))),
You are so strong.
My abusive mother live with me & drive me, h, & kids mad, until she died at 96 years of age. She hated me I think. She wanted to ruin my life because she perceived her life as ruined.
She only died in 2003 at Easter. She hated me because I was a bastard I think, but she must have always known I would be, as my father was married to a woman who wouldn't divorce him. Dad had been dead over 30 years before I found this out.
Be strong, don't let her get to you. Have you got siblings who could share the load ? I didn't.
Protect yourself !!! Her problems are her problems, not yours.