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Apr 01, 2011, 06:18 PM
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Brother ex abuser dying of cancer soooo confused. He is dying 6 months to a year to live. He wants to see family. So mixed confusion. He is my brother and promised my mom on her dieing bed that we would take care of him. much of my family upset with him. I want to say screw it but yet I want to forgive and promised to my mother too. I don't know why I care so much? Do I bring him to my home? Sooo confused. He disappeard for many years cuz of law got more in contact since he has been sick. He wants forgiveness from the Lord............ Is he real Oh God is it nother scam? unless God cures him totally I know he will not survive. His cancer ended up connected to corotid artery which can not be removed. I do love him and not sure why. always looked for him in every car that went by when we did not know where he lived. I care much can't help it but it is soooo confusing!!!!!
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#2
Apr 01, 2011, 06:51 PM
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never mind!!!
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#3
Apr 01, 2011, 06:53 PM
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no sweetie it does matter cuz not all are all or nothing. hang in there!
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Apr 01, 2011, 07:17 PM
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can we remove this post?
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#5
Apr 01, 2011, 07:19 PM
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There is no outside source who can really know, Im sure and I think it is due time she know that. I will fight to get her off here.
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Apr 01, 2011, 08:22 PM
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omg!! it is loosing battel here isn't it? srry ppl!!!
I know this is real but wish it was not with so many inside. thnx all for putting up with us when we pop in. Wish we could be more stable for sure. srry again! |
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Apr 05, 2011, 09:23 PM
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mln,sorry for the confusion. the truth is you do not have to see him face to face. Remeber your own safety does come first. If you do have some that need to do it try to compermise and do at a public place.
But first journal and allow those within you a say about the sistuation. Remember you are not alone and always think of your own safety first.
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Sometimes the only way to find freedom is to fight for it, even unto death! Because no form of abuse transcends pass it! To live free and with hope is still the greatest gift of life!- anderson .gif "Boy Angel")
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Apr 13, 2011, 02:58 PM
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We are sorry you are having so much conflict over this. Feelings about abusers are always so conflicted. We just want to advise that anything you do, you do for YOU and not for him. If you really believe he is dying, and it would make you feel good to speak to him, or to do things to help with his care, then that's okay. BUT if this is all about him trying to ease his own conscience for the bad things he has done, then We would not help him do so.
We have also been approached by abuser in dire straits, and it is really hard to figure out what to do. We just advise you think really hard about what is best for you, and try to close out any thoughts about what he needs. Do what will give YOU the most peace, and keep you safe. Thank you very much for sharing this. ~Ivy |
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