[anderson]

Okay we are doing truama switching because the little ones are afriad even when sasha is near us. When we are safe they tend to stay calm but when certin people come near us they try to take over and make us run away.
How can we help them feel safer so they no take over and run aaway from people and places?

[Lexi232]

Hmmm.. Would they feel safer if you carried a "Safety item" on you? A special item either that you got, or someone who makes you feel safe gave to you, and carry it around with you to help them not scared?

[Korin]

Lexi232, that's a good idea because little ones like images more than words so having something special for them to focus on when they feel afraid is a good idea.

Anderson, some people might remind little ones of someone else, the sound of their voice, certain words. You have to keep reassuring them that you are all safe now, that you have always worked to protect each other and will continue to do so.

[anderson]

That is why we got sasha but she is still puppy. We are doing so much healing that at times it be hard to understand why they still be afread. We will be trying new things, we got a stuffie and people we trust to be with us when we go to certain places but its frustation that the no trust us to keepem safe now that we haave apartment and puppy to warn us when bad people come near us. before we had no way of knowing cause of the truma silance.
We sorry trying to find peace in a haystack of confusion.. . . .

[Korin]

You’re actually doing amazingly well. Just recognising the feeling of being afraid is good. Recognising what causes it would be helpful too. And just being kind and gentle to each other helps so so much.

Be strong.

[krazy_phoenix]

Dear anderson!
a thought came to mind, possible way off base here, but thought to put it to you anyway...
what about carrying a small mirror in your pocket, one that doesn't have a cover so you can see into readily, that fits in the palm of your hand. My theory is that when littles inside are feeling panicky and want to run away, a quick look in the mirror may remind them that there is 'a big' on the outside, that they aren't so physically vulnerable, that the face they see can help to keep them be safe because the face they see belongs to an adult... I know this hasn't been necessarily a safety net for you in the recent past, but seeing as you are in a 'safer' position now, it may give your littles a chance at 'playing a part' and let them know that they aren't obvious to the outside world if they don't want to be. Does that make sense??
probably not, but its kind of like something we are working on at the mo, keeping a card in pocket to remind us of our age, name, city and year we are currently in, to remind us that we are safe. Don't know, maybe looking at your face may be more of a shock than a help... was just a thought.
Thinking of you, hoping you are ok,
kp

[Korin]

krazy_phoenix, that does make sense, and it's a really good idea. One I haven't tried yet. Thanks.

[anderson]

The little ones got an angel this weekend!
We had company this weekend and she is in service dog training. She was here when the little ones got scared and was out she did not hurt us and even took the time to let them know that we be safe and she no mad at us.
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That just start the swinging door syndrom. Every one kept switching to see if it was ligit. WE were crying , laoughing, some even was in shock. it has been so long that a person in our life took the time and accepted us no matter which one was out and did not look at us as we be crazy, with no memior of being hurt or accepted.
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This was one wild weekend we not only got to spend time with a person that known enough about DID that she was not shocked about us.
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We even got to tell some of our abusers that were aka christen full of love should have put sheets over their head so that the general public would know them for who they truely are. They truely taought hate for those that were different.
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The main thing is that after all that we have been through we found that we can find hope in a stranger. Even some old friends when they prove that they accept us for who we really are.
One body but many souls.
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We also will take the advice the littles like the ideal of the merior. and tinks for letting us find out we no alone in how we feel.

[Korin]

Sound like positive progress to me.
Good on you all.

One technique I learned while in the hospital... in a group meeting the team leaders of the group would say "all adult parts forward". From there I told everyone inside of me to go to their safe place to play and have fun. They can do whatever they want to have fun. I would visualize them all holding hands and walking to the safe place behind a door and I have a sentry that stands guard until it is time to let everyone out. Then I feel a sense of power coming into me and feeling grounded and present to handle whatever is needed.