Need some help

Hi all it's been quite a while since my last post. I have been maintaining for the most part but could use some help with something.

I've been having more face time with family members who know about my D.I.D. My cousin in particular is curious about my parts and wants to meet them. I told her it doesn't work that way and they will only surface when i'm in trouble or when they feel safe enough. What she can't understand is how my parts don't know her. My cousin and I were close growing up so I guess in her mind they all should know her and want to talk. I've been asking inside if anyone remembers her and some say they do but don't have many claimed memories. Has anyone else experienced this? Do your parts remember things about your family from stages of your life. Do they recognize them as an older person? I don't want to push the issue with my parts but it would be great to find out who hold the memories of me and my cousin growing up.

Thanks for your help.
ND

Can’t really answer that. But I did experience one very embarrassing moment that might be related. I don’t think I will ever live it down. There was a knock on the door, I went to open it and a guy stood there. I just stood staring at him waiting for him to say something when with a flash I realised it was my son! We just laughed and I made some joke about him not coming around often enough for me to recognise him. He doesn’t know about DID.

I usually don’t speak first. Allowing the person I bump into unexpectedly to speak first jars the memory banks and brings recognition.

I cover it up all the time. I wouldn’t waste my time trying to explain DID to anyone. It’s like trying to give someone the history of about five or six people when you don’t actually know those people well enough yet to do that. Outsiders just don’t get it.

Yea, i'm kinda with Korin; or at least that's kinda the way we do things. Most of us who are around right now have been around for many years, so they all kinda know the family. Sorta.

But memories of childhood are largely locked away from most of us.

Hiya ND!

I'm so glad you mentioned that your others only come out in times of trouble or when they feel safe. Mine do the same. I was wondering if others had that experience. Because they haven't come out with T yet and I think it's because they don't feel safe enough. Thanks for the validation!

Love and Hugs,
Tara

are you not co-conscious with any of them?

Hiya Trinity!

was that to me or to Newly_Diagnosed?

if it was to me, yes I am with most of them. Problem is our T doesn't believe in co-consciousness and so says we just have a "fractured ego" and not did. Even though the week before she said our did was severe?? I don't get it. Anyway, don't mean to derail the thread. sorry.

love and hugs,
Tara

Tara,

I have spoken with many mental health professionals over the years and had a few hospital stays. No one really understands DID. I truly feel that they (docs and Ts) are struggling just as much as we are to understand it.

I had quite a struggle before I found someone who was willing to consider DID and refer me to a psychologist. In just two visits he diagnosed DID.

Hang in there. I’m sure your T is trying to understand it as much as you are. Get to know yourself, your whole-self. Learn to trust your own instincts and intuition and know that something in you knows what is going on and why. Talk to your T honestly and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Maybe together you can work it out.

I am co-conscious with some. The one thing I thought of is that my cousin legally changed her name when she was an adult. maybe thats where the confusion is.

Thanks

it was to newly diagnosed but is fine you answered. ok was just wondering because a number of us are co but not necessarily do we all remember the same people

Out of my whole family only my sister knows that I have DID.
Several of the inside kids have talked to her, and been at her house. However, they don't really understand that this grown up Sister is the same Sister THEY grew with. They think Sister is still 2, or 4, or whatever--littler than them. They don't understand that the "Big Lady" is still my little sister but all grown up.

They also don't quite understand where "mommy" went-- they are still looking for mommy, age 24 ...not my Mom who is now a grandma

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