[Fuzzybear]

How do you react to feeling abandoned?

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I feel upset when I am abandoned.

[yellowted]

I got used to it quite young, so now it's like water off a ducks back. life is too short to concern yourself with those who don't want you around. there are plenty others who enjoy being with you. True friends stick together through rough and smothe.

[aroniafly]

I shrink when I am ABANDONED OR REJECTED. I BECOME VERY ANGRY AS WELL.

[kasva]

hi fuzzy....i shut down emotionally and/or push people away. usually i shut down (and say to myself well forget them ) if its not a t or really close friend. if it's a t or really close friend that i perceive is abandoning me, then i push them away,stop seeing them or calling them if a friend......get mad at t if it's a t......kasva

((((((((((fuzzzzy)))))))))).........

We pretty much fall apart.

[roads]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

How do you react to feeling abandoned?

I don't care. Not a bit.

Then sometime later, after I'm pretty much all in pieces inside, I let my "aware" self realize that I do care so much and I wonder why it's happened again & whether the pieces will get together this time.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

How do you react to feeling abandoned?

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when my friends are busy and dont have time for me, or my wife or family I find other things to do that can be done by myself - card games, read a book, puzzles, surf the internet, go for a walk, depending on time of yr take my canoe out for a ride on the lake, go roller skating, go ice skating, window shopping at the mall. theres lots of things a person can do by their self when their friends and family are too busy with their own life. right now (christmas time) everyone is off doing their own secret Santa things so its easy to forget to spend quality time with each other.

for the lonely feelings that stem from my past trauma's I contact my treatment provider. she always takes a few minutes to listen and make suggestions that will help.Usually her suggestion is take some time to write it out then take a few deep breaths and then take the dog for a walk LOL

[bipolar_bear]

(((((((((((((((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry you are hurting so much.

BB

[DespondentDaisy]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

How do you react to feeling abandoned?

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Gosh, I don't know. I try to be more resilient now, I've dealt with it poorly in the past. I guess try to think positively about it somehow. I don't know if you've ever heard the saying, "As one door closes another one will soon open." ~Or something like that, I think I'm saying it wrong. Sorry if that sounds cheesy. Also, you could look at it as it being that persons loss, not yours- they don't know what they're missing!
Sending much and your way.

[Hunny]

((((Fuzzybear))))

For me it's hard to discern sometimes between then and now so it takes more energy when a new 'issue' comes up to work through the feelings but it can be done!

Coming alongside...

[hermeand]

I get a heavy, heavy heart.