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Apr 18, 2006, 06:51 PM
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they are moving my mom to Texas. Is more than 18 hours driving to get there. she has alzheimers and sister there is sick much of the time and my brother there I'm not sure he is able to be there for her. It is so far away!!!!
Every day I see her now I know that she will be far away. Yes, my parents have not been there for me but I have had to be there for her many of times and now she goes far away. She only knows so little and if she goes away will that little exclude me? I don't care what happened in the past, she is our mother. mlyn |
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Apr 18, 2006, 07:05 PM
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Oh mlyn, I'm so sorry. I understand wanting to be there for her even with the baggage from the past.
 My godmother has alzheimers. It's a horrible disease. Is she moving in with your sister or brother? This really sucks. ((((( mlyn ))))) 
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Apr 18, 2006, 07:14 PM
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(((((Mlyn))))
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. It can be very hard when someone we love is far away. I hope she gets the care she needs in Texas. Alzheimer's is very hard to live with, my uncle had it. I wish they'd make a cure for it, or find a way to prevent it altogether. You are a great daughter to have been there for your mom, and you are right, no matter what has happened in the past she is still your mom. Is there a way you will be able to visit her? I know it's a long way, but hopefully you will be able to visit . My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love, Sujin
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Apr 18, 2006, 07:15 PM
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No not moving in with sister or brother is good thing. I do not trust brother and sister sick so much just not sure it is all good thing other than the place is up on alzheimers disease and will or says they will work with her memory and things she likes to do. Is not like where she is now for they have no clue so think moving is prbly a good thing.
Old stuff I need to put away. Things I would like to ask her but there is no way she could even begin to tell me. It is ok has to be ok. mlyn |
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Apr 18, 2006, 07:27 PM
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thank you sujin! I'm hoping I will be able to visit my mom maybe once a year or every other year. That is my hope. I do not know if that will be possible but I will fight to do so. Visiting her now is nothing more than knowing soon she will be gone and knowing there is one thing she loves to talk about will my sister and brother listen to her. Yes, it is hard but will they do it?
maybe I make no sence but need to just talk my oldest sister comes here tomorrow so that she can also see mom as much as she can before she goes cuz she knows she will not see her as much as we have been able to. She has been told many lies too and yet here we stand for our mother. she is my step sister who use to think that my father was her step father when he in reality was her grandfather. My mother holds the lies that my father made her keep. It is not right. So sorry! This sucks!!! I want to be able to say screw you and yet can not. More I have seen her through this disease the more I've seen her as she truely was. She had no power over our father. srry. bye |
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Apr 18, 2006, 08:59 PM
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mlyn, I am so sorry. I was a caretaker to my mother as well as a daughter to her and it was difficult when she moved to get help. One piece of advice I can give you from personal experience is, yes you may not always be there physically but you can still remain close. I would call my mom and send her cards and little "thinking of you boxes" filled with things I baked. The best thing you can do for both of you is know and show one another, although you are apart physically you can remain together through other ways. Hang in there! And if you need to talk I'm all ears!
HUGS Cher
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Apr 18, 2006, 10:55 PM
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mlyn,
I feel the pain in your words. How hard to see the helplessness in your mother. Realizing it was perhaps there from the start when it came to the actions of the past. I hope the move turns into a positive thing for your mother.
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Apr 18, 2006, 11:50 PM
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mlyn, I am sorry to hear about your mom. My mom lives in a Nursing Home... It is a real adjustment. I hear the pain in your words. Take Care!
Lilith
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Apr 19, 2006, 05:23 AM
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 MLYN Although I can't relate about the feelings you have for your mother, I can imagine and can also imagine how difficult this must be for you. I hope things work out well for all of you. My best wishes, sincerely, to all of you. Hugs, Songbird
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Apr 21, 2006, 08:10 PM
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thank you so much all of you for your kind words and support.
mlyn |
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