[monarch_butterfly]

Laost night I called to talk to my mom and got my step dad. His first question.

Which one of you am i speaking to?
i answered me monarch me
he asked how do i know that? And i said They'll probably introduce themselves if they are going to talk to you. He said if they try to talk to me i will hang up on them!

That he was serious about and now i am pretty sure Anna is going to start protecting me from stepdad too!

Because then he asked
If you were judging a competition how many scores would you get to hold up? (As in I'd get to hold up 3 because of 3 different opinions)

Then he made some other "joke"

I was heartvroken. This man has been jealous of me since i was in college and has inapopriate boundaries obviously.
Has anyone said mean stuff to you? I feel like calling him back and yelling at him. He can't tease me about my disabilitiex without my permission and anyway my mom said she told him that in confidence and he isn't supposed to badger me. He's a jerk.

I want to yell but can't as yelling is a trigger for switching.

[Kendyll]

That stinks.
Unfortunately, he can tease you about your disabilities without your permission. People are mean and tease other people all the time. He can be a jerk any time he wants to. I don't understand why people want to be jerks and I don't understand why they want to be mean.

He doesn't understand. That's for sure. If he understood, he wouldn't tease. But he can't understand. Lots of people make fun of things they can't understand...

I'm sorry. Most people are just thoughtless, ignorant and self-centered. They aren't evil. They don't mean to hurt us. They just do.

[monarch_butterfly]

Yeah. I hope he learns what it's like to be teased someday...

[Meisjes]

I'm so sorry that is happening to you. I have had some people say mean things to me on a differnt forum but never in person about my insiders. Even then it felt like a punch in the stomach. Yelling would be a trigger for me too. I hope you can find a way to stand up to him or maybe refuse to respond to his barbs. Maybe give him the silent treatment or hang up on him. He doesn't deserve to talk with you.

I'm so sorry. Meisjes

[Claritytoo]

Originally Posted by monarch_butterfly

Laost night I called to talk to my mom and got my step dad. His first question.

Which one of you am i speaking to?
i answered me monarch me
he asked how do i know that? And i said They'll probably introduce themselves if they are going to talk to you. He said if they try to talk to me i will hang up on them!

That he was serious about and now i am pretty sure Anna is going to start protecting me from stepdad too!

Because then he asked
If you were judging a competition how many scores would you get to hold up? (As in I'd get to hold up 3 because of 3 different opinions)

Then he made some other "joke"

I was heartvroken. This man has been jealous of me since i was in college and has inapopriate boundaries obviously.
Has anyone said mean stuff to you? I feel like calling him back and yelling at him. He can't tease me about my disabilitiex without my permission and anyway my mom said she told him that in confidence and he isn't supposed to badger me. He's a jerk.

I want to yell but can't as yelling is a trigger for switching.

I don't think calling him back to tell him off will do you any good. I think in the future just don't talk to him. Ask for your mom and if he asks you any questions ignore it and ask to speak with you mom. He isn't worth your time. Feel better

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by monarch_butterfly

Laost night I called to talk to my mom and got my step dad. His first question.

Which one of you am i speaking to?
i answered me monarch me
he asked how do i know that? And i said They'll probably introduce themselves if they are going to talk to you. He said if they try to talk to me i will hang up on them!

That he was serious about and now i am pretty sure Anna is going to start protecting me from stepdad too!

Because then he asked
If you were judging a competition how many scores would you get to hold up? (As in I'd get to hold up 3 because of 3 different opinions)

Then he made some other "joke"

I was heartvroken. This man has been jealous of me since i was in college and has inapopriate boundaries obviously.
Has anyone said mean stuff to you? I feel like calling him back and yelling at him. He can't tease me about my disabilitiex without my permission and anyway my mom said she told him that in confidence and he isn't supposed to badger me. He's a jerk.

I want to yell but can't as yelling is a trigger for switching.

most if not all states in america have laws against making statements against someones race, religion, handicap ....and theres harassment laws too that cover such things as what your step dad did....

if you were here in New York what he did is grounds for emotional abuse, harassment protection orders and prosecution.

a protection order is a court order that tells him he can not harass you this way in the future and if he comes with in so many feet of you or initiates conversations with you or approaches you, you can have him arrested..

if you are here in New York you would not have to just put up with this and he would not be able to do this to you..

my suggestion....contact your treatment provider.. they tell you whether your location allows this kind of emotional abuse/harassment of people with mental illness and how you can protect yourself by obtaining a protection order against this kind of emotional harassment abuse.

My husband sometimes teases us about having DID. Sometimes its funny, sometimes its not. I try not to take it personally. Sometimes people make fun of what they dont understand, or what they are ignorant of.
Have your tried setting a bounary with this person and telling them not to tease you?

[beadlady29]

dear monarch,
unfortunately, dear one, you r not alone. beads has lived most of her entire life beign made fun of, bullied, the buttend of jokes about her handicaps, etc..................well we r doing something about it this time - beads is waloking rite out of a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship with no funds to pay far where she is moveing to........we is trusting in God for that. we has deceided that we ARE gooder then that and we aint gonna allow ppls who belittle us, hurteds us on purpose, yell at us far no reason and otherways don't respect us in our life no more. we walk away from them . period. its time we show some backbone and it starts like NOW.
the stress of liveign wiith this kind of abuse is makeign our hair fall out, our chronws disease act up, our fingernails be ripping off constantly that they look like beads chewed em off but only her aint got no teeth...........
stress can kill u......we has already had belly cancer once because of stress and we aint gonna wait far it to get that bad this time.
we is turn over new leaf. no one disrespects us beadies no more. period. we is not so desperate far friends that we needs to tolerate this and we aint gonna no more.
I dunno what to tell u about how to handle it with ur step dad other then to tell him if u can be respectfull of me then don't talk to me at all r something. it is not my family tho so it is hard far beads to say. our heart goes out to u cuz we unnerstand how delicate situation such as this can be. pray about it. maybe the answer will come to u. hang in their. and beads hear anytime, just a pm away anytime if u need to talk.
mary sue & all us beadies

[monarch_butterfly]

Oh wow!!! We want to respond to each one of you! Thankyou so much for the support! We got admitted to the hospital tonight as blood preasure is low and am getting IV fluid. Tomorrow we are having surgery for a more long term IV called a hickman in the chest.

So we will work on responses later thisweek. Thankyou all for support!

[shortandcute]

I'm sorry that you've been going through all that!Yes people can be pretty thoughtless--to put it mildly.
In school, I was bullied alot and picked on for being "different," being called "retard" (no offense to anyone), being humiliated by teachers in front of the class, etc. I tend to go off in another world when I'm highly stressed, which has really ticked a lot of people off. My sister and her husband were my legal guardians for a couple of years, and always said I was "spacing out" and would scream at me as if I was doing it on purpose, and of course that just made it worse. Sometimes my sister would call me, "Miss Stoneface" or accuse me of "shutting them out." One time, a few years after I had moved out, I was downtown running some errands, and I was kind of preoccupied at the time, and on the verge of "zoning out;" My brother-in-law happened to be in town and saw me walking, and he could tell I was preoccupied. So he decide he was going to act like he was going to run me down to "teach me a lesson" about "spacing out!" He got out of the car and started making fun of me and screaming at me for "spacing out"--I was so mortified!

I am so sorry this happened to you. It is so wrong! I have had some therapists make cruel remarks. I didn't keep them long. Sometimes I like to have some fun with it (if other people can, why can't I?) Like when my husband and I go to a restaurant and the hostess asks "How many?" I look behing me and pretend to count and say "Uumm right now there's about four, but you'd better set us up with extra chairs just in case"

I hope you can limit contact with anyone who hurts you like that. You've been hurt enough.