Everyone turn you away?

I was diagnosed with DID two days before my eighteenth birthday (Great present lol) and everyone turned me away, my mother told me I was a freak and that she didn't deserve a daughter like me and all my friends were uncomfortable around me so they turned me away too. I nearly lost the one person I had because I tried to hide my DID from them. Other people experience this? If so, how would you recommend I cope with this?

I'm sorry you went through all of this Torie. I can't say I've had the same experience, so I don't know how much help I will be besides offering sympathy, but I think you need to find new people in your life. I can assure you there are going to be people out there who aren't scared of you because you have DID. Though I don't recommend leading into a conversation about it, and I know many people don't say anything because lets face it- it's easier that way, but I know that once you get suitably close to someone and you tell them, they should realize that you've always been this way. Nothing has changed and not much is going to change. Yeah you have DID, but you have always had DID you just didn't know how to call it.

People get scared of the label, but honestly nothing has changed.

Are you still at home? Are you safe there? First and for most try and find a safe space to live and be yourself. Then you need to start your healing journey. You will find new friends along the way.

At least, that's my advice.

Thank you. Hearing that really helps. I hope people do realise I'm the same person I always was and that nothing has changed.

In my experience, it hasn't been the diagnoses I've been given that have scared people off, it's been when I become very stressed and needy and they become overwhelmed. The diagnosis adds a lot of stress on when they learn about it, but if I was acting completely 'normal' for me, they wouldn't be upset. Sometimes when I get overwhelmed with my mental health I tend to lean a little too much on others for emotional support, and for dealing with the mental health stuff. This isn't their job, and they can only help so much, as they have their own lives. I've found that when I've been able to set up a good professional support team, and use the coping skills I have, my relationships do a lot better. This way those around me aren't overwhelmed, and it can be an equal give and take relationship. Often people who are goign through high stress forget that it is important for others around them to have some of the emphasis be on them as well. If I can't spend time focusing on other people that I am close to, catching up with them, and giving them time to talk about them and their issues as well as supporting me, my relationships suffer.

I guess my point is that I hope YOU realize you're the same person as you were before, too. Just as good at the same things, just as functional, worthy and normal as you were before. Don't let the label of a diagnosis change who YOU are, just let it give you some insight into how to move forward and heal. It is too easy to get bogged down in symptoms and labels, and forget who you are without the diagnosis.
xoxo
IJ