[MisguidedGhosts]

Okay. Im scared. My friend has DID an her alter is takking to me saying she doesnt know where my frirnd went and that she cant find her. Im worried that my friend isnt returning. This is the first time her alter has spoken with me directly. Is there a way I can help her switch back to myfriend? Please help. Shes at college and shell have to drive home. Im so scared im crying.

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[Fuzzybear]

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[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by MisguidedGhosts

Okay. Im scared. My friend has DID an her alter is takking to me saying she doesnt know where my frirnd went and that she cant find her. Im worried that my friend isnt returning. This is the first time her alter has spoken with me directly. Is there a way I can help her switch back to myfriend? Please help. Shes at college and shell have to drive home. Im so scared im crying.

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there is nothing you can do but maybe a bit of information will help you understand where your friend is and why their alter is unable to find them /know where they are....

DID stands for Dissociative Identity Disorder.

dissociation is an automatic reaction to a persons environment, people, stressors, traumas, emotions....

short version a person gets triggered. that trigger can be good or bad but in most cases is a negative emotions/event/.....what ever....that causes a persons body and mind to start feeling numb, spacey, foggy minded, disconnected....

example When I was cooking dinner yesterday. my wife was helping and we were talking. something in the conversation caused me to suddenly feel like I was sinking, I could hear her but like she was so far away from me. that was a dissociation reaction in me because of the topic we were discussing.

dissociation is one of these things that has many different severities. some people feel numb others feel spacey, some feel disconnected, some people feel like they or their environment is not quite right...too slow, too fast...

these are all normal sevarities. but in some people their dissociation goes much farther and into the many different dissociative disorders where the normal dissociation is more extreme.

you can read more about the dissociative disorders here in america here...

http://forums.psychcentral.com/disso...s-dsm-5-a.html

with DID the dissociation is so severe that the persons personality is divided up and each of the dissociation created personalities have their own jobs, purposes, reasons for being. What that means is they function separately...like you and your friend function as separate people... only in this case the personalities all share one body.

with DID there is a situation called Co consciousness... co consciousness is how much the host (person in which the alters reside in) and alters can communicate and share with each other...

some hosts and alters have no co consciousness and some have limited and some are mostly co conscious, some have internal systems of alters that are combined where some hosts and alters have co consciousness and some do not...

something caused your friend to be triggered into dissociating, then the alter took control.

to understand this think about a time when you felt scared, anxious, had a panic attack what ever.. you felt that way until you got over that fear, anxiety, panic. then you were ok again right.

well when a person dissociates they will continue to be dissociated until they feel what ever triggered them into dissociating is no longer a problem for them at that moment. when they no longer feel fear, anxiety,panic whatever it was that triggered them.

example during the discussion with my wife and I, I was able to recognize there was nothing to be afraid of, and I no longer felt dissociated.

for some people grounding back in reality like I did is fast. for others it can take many months for them to "come back". there is nothing anyone can do to force a dissociated person to "come back" its all internal.

sometimes a .....trained professional....will teach the person with dissociative problems how to ground and bring their self back. sometimes a dissociated person will feel comfortable with those around them so that they can come back, ultimately if the dissociated person does not want to come back they will not until they feel there is nothing to fear.

you can best help your friend by just being their friend. dont try to become their treatment provider by taking on the role of being responsible for making them switch back. Most internal systems of alters and sometimes the hosts that I know, due to the nature of the disorder, soon learn how to manipulate that friend into becoming their mothers, fathers, caretakers, abusers what ever jobs, purposes reasons why that alter was created. the best thing to do is leave the therapy work to the professionals and just continue being a friend. you start treating your friend differently now that you know they have DID it can cause more harm then good.

one thing about DID is this isnt some illness that has suddenly appeared. its been there since early childhood. it got your friend through her whole childhood and too date it will see that she is safe even now that she is an adult.

[Claritytoo]

[quote=MisguidedGhosts;3557037]Okay. Im scared. My friend has DID an her alter is takking to me saying she doesnt know where my frirnd went and that she cant find her. Im worried that my friend isnt returning. This is the first time her alter has spoken with me directly. Is there a way I can help her switch back to myfriend? Please help. Shes at college and shell have to drive home. Im so scared im crying.

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Maybe you can ask the alter that is present to write your friend a letter letting her know that you called and that you are worried about her and would like to hear from her. Sometimes when I am writing parts are reading and respond.

[IzzyMeadows]

Just as an update, I came back after the alter that was out went to sleep. Ghost knows of my disorder but not really what it entails. Thank you all for helping her.

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[Claritytoo]

Glade thing worked out. Take care.