[likewater]

We reported our abuser and it's 2 yrs past the statute of limitations they say. The kids
dont understand. They just feel abandoned and like no one cares all over again.

[Claritytoo]

It took a lot of strength to report your abuser. Everyone should be proud of how strong you all are. The most important thing is that you told and weren't afraid. You did a good thing.

[HazelGirl]

I am so sorry. Our legal system is s**t sometimes. You had the courage to say something. You stood up for yourself and even though they won't get punished for the horrible things they did, you can protect yourself now.

[likewater]

Thank you. One reason I reported, is my sister and I are pretty sure my abuser (my mom) is also responsible. For my brothers death 2 years ago, but the police didn't test her for gunpowder. I told the victims advocate, in my experience, the mental health system and legal system are just full of overworked people that don't care about justice, they just care about what's fastest, easiest and cheapest. The advocate offered to send me a pamphlet, then realized I wasn't eligible for the svcs she was talking about. She said I could call my local police department. Yeah. I'm really going to do that right away because they have been so helpful in the past. I'm sorry, but I feel like telling them all to
Get lost.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by likewater

Thank you. One reason I reported, is my sister and I are pretty sure my abuser (my mom) is also responsible. For my brothers death 2 years ago, but the police didn't test her for gunpowder. I told the victims advocate, in my experience, the mental health system and legal system are just full of overworked people that don't care about justice, they just care about what's fastest, easiest and cheapest. The advocate offered to send me a pamphlet, then realized I wasn't eligible for the svcs she was talking about. She said I could call my local police department. Yeah. I'm really going to do that right away because they have been so helpful in the past. I'm sorry, but I feel like telling them all to
Get lost.

Im glad you had the courage to report your abuser. I dont remember if you are in the USA but thought I would let you know (and maybe you can pass it along to your kids) that even though the statute of limitations has passed your reporting wasnt for nothing..

here in the USA even if the statute of limitations for prosecution has passed reports of abuse can still be used to punish the abusers...

here is what happens here in NY..

the victim makes a report with the police.

the police put that report on the computer and in their files under the abusers name.

the abuser is then notified that an abuse allegation has been made and by who (here in the USA when people are accused of a crime they have the right to face their accuser in a court of law)

besides what the accusation is and who made that accusation the notification states that the report will remain on the justice system files/computer. The statute of limitations has expired on the abuse charge.

if they feel they have been unjustly accused they can obtain a lawyer and pursuit court action for slander/libel and defamation of character.

this will not remove the abuse allegation from the files but should they decide to seek court action a new report with the court findings, will be entered into the files.

from there the abuse allegations are kept on file so that should another victim come forth with more recent abuse allegations the report can be used against the abuser through showing the court this abuser has a past history of being accused of the same crime and whether or not they were cleared in court through a slander/libel/defamation of character case.

most abusers do not seek out only one victim, especially if the abuser is a family member or family friend.

[likewater]

Oh. Ok. I'm in Colorado so I don't know what happens here.If they tell my abuser, she will flip out.
She's our mom.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( likewater ))))))))
safe hugs (if ok)

[likewater]

Thanks fuzzy