thank goodness.

i am so glad it's over.

being alone, not getting any gifts, while everyone else was enjoying christmas was really hard. (and to have people tell me, oh just think of it like any
other day, ) that was hard too.

it's not like any other day for me- because people are celebrating, eating turkey, getting gifts, and i'm not- so i can't think of it like any other day.

i'm sort of celebrating

[Little Lulu]

No reason you are compelled to have your 'celebration' on the actual day ... if you feel better today, then enjoy it.

I am with you. Christmas just isn't my thing anymore and I am glad the 26th is here. I am going to the craft store today and buy some things for winter projects that I will look forward to doing. I don't even feel guilty anymore about where I am with the whole holiday business.

[Roscopuppy1]

I am with you "Shattered", although I do have some friends and spent some time last night with one and his family, meeting his youngest daughter, her boyfriend and his son watching their new BlueRay and flat screen TV. Had some good conversations, dinner and laughs... I am single, always have been, been sorta dumped on by 2 younger sisters and they've brought Mom into the quota, so no Christmas, Thanksgiving or Easter's with them anymore. Have a nephew who's been bneen given the silver spoon and we all live within SCREAMING distance on top of the mtn.

He is telling lies to sis's and Mom and stealing stuff/never returning borrowed stuff and I have been barred from going on family, non-deeded property he gets free to live on to "steal" my own property back. In last couple days, he's put up no trespassing signs all over, since I stole MY property back at the barn earlier this week, that my MOM doesn't believe he moved/took after talking to him...i am so glad it's over. To top it off, I basically gave him free use of a front-end loader at std. $ 80. per hr. with operator for about 40+ hrs. on/off and they damaged it in multiple ways with out repairing it or even attempting to offer to repair it and it was brand new to me in June.

Sis's/Mom says I should let them borrow out of the kindness of my heart and NOT EXPECT ANYTHING in RETURN?! Really??? I was brought up, you borrow it-break it, you FIX IT or REPLACE IT, period! And they say that ""I" am the "SICK ONE"???

How old are you? If I need something I buy it and don't desire anything from anyone as I probably don't NEED it, have no place to put it and probably won't use it? I only give to the little ones under age 18 now. At 4 years old, I took my piddly allowance of a quarter and saved and bought Mom and Dad something yearly, even if it was a chinese piece of junk for $ .50 cents and always done so until recently including older over age 18, so called adults. No longer. I had my 28 yuear old nephew come up the other day and ASK for his Christmas present(money) early! I said no more, GET A JOB! He hasn't worked in months............ he spun out of my driveway and Tues. totalled the wonderful low mileage car Mom gave him 6 months ago! Now he has no way to get a job, IF HE WANTED ONE!.

No it's not just any other day, Jesus is the reason for the season!!!. Try to look at it from that aspect. I know it's not easy, but life isn't and I am going thru my family crap also now be barred from the old place, barn, shed and property, as well as not desiring ANY contact with them cause I am just always accused of stuff and always get in fights and am always the loser, no matter the true FACTS. Nephew can do NO wrong and lie through his teeth about stuff and I am supposedly ALWAYS attacking him???

I don't attack unless backed in a corner or have the true facts/evidence of wrong doing (many photos) of how my "stuff" grows legs and seems to walk/run off my property?

I despise emotions and DRAMA and avoid if possible at all costs.... So now I have chosen to back away and be the "fool on the hill", like the song goes. It beats being an arguing/drama filled fool...

New Years is coming up, so what are you going to feel then, no invites to parties, kisses at the witching New Year hr. etc. Better get prepared for another let down, find something/someone to be with before hand so you don't feel in the dumps...

Have you tried a puppy dog or kitty as a companion/friend that gives unconditional love? I hate to go on vacation and leave mine, even though they make occasional mistakes, barks and coughs up wonderful hairballs! Ha, Ha.

Best of feelings...



being alone, not getting any gifts, while everyone else was enjoying christmas was really hard. and to have people tell me, oh just think of it like any
other day, ) that was hard too.

it's not like any other day for me- because people are celebrating, eating turkey, getting gifts, and i'm not- so i can't think of it like any other day.

i'm sort of celebrating[/QUOTE]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

No reason you are compelled to have your 'celebration' on the actual day ... if you feel better today, then enjoy it.

I am with you. Christmas just isn't my thing anymore and I am glad the 26th is here. I am going to the craft store today and buy some things for winter projects that I will look forward to doing. I don't even feel guilty anymore about where I am with the whole holiday business.

i just don't have anyone to celebrate it with. and i didn't get anything either, eat a turkey, have much decoration so you get to thinking... well what's really the point to the whole lot in the end.

my point has always been that even if i did have someone to celebrate it with, even if i did get gifts, would it be worth it.

what could i do at christmas what i couldn't do say, in april or may.

no seriously.. where is their a law, for example- that says i can't open presents on may the 8th.

waste of time. good if you've got someone to share it with, but not for me..

i am so relieved too. im estranged from half my family so only spent it with my parents. i was not in the mood for christmas this year and used sh to get me through unfortunately.

[Insignificant other]

I'm relieved its over as well.
Although I'm not alone .. I really am.
There is no conversation in this house so its lonely for me .
I'm grateful I have my pup .. I know she loves me and it helps .. there were no gifts, no happy vibes .. nothing .. so .. I will continue to move on.
I wish you happiness in the New Year.

Originally Posted by Insignificant other

I'm relieved its over as well.
Although I'm not alone .. I really am.
There is no conversation in this house so its lonely for me .
I'm grateful I have my pup .. I know she loves me and it helps .. there were no gifts, no happy vibes .. nothing .. so .. I will continue to move on.
I wish you happiness in the New Year.

a lot of us seem to be in the same boat. lonely this christmas.

it is so sad

have a good new year also

in the new year i hope you have everything you want

[Luce]

I am sorry you felt so down and lonely on Christmas.
If you have a year like that again you might like to try what I have tried in the past when I have found myself in a similar situation.
Some things I have done:
--- volunteered at Community Christmas dinners for underprivileged / homeless people / children's wards at hospital
--- travelled - going somewhere on a plane on Christmas day is fun - you meet other solo travellers, and you make connections with other people who are alone / in transit on the day. I have done this one a couple of times, sometimes on a solo trip to another country, and I have always enjoyed it.
---- have an anti-Christmas - refuse to do ANYTHING Christmassy all season and on the day do the exact opposite of what most people do on Christmas. Certain alters of mine totally loved doing this!

edited to add - if taking a trip to another country a great way to escape the feeling of 'missing out' is going to a country that is not predominantly Christian... Indonesia worked well for me!

Originally Posted by Luce

I am sorry you felt so down and lonely on Christmas.
If you have a year like that again you might like to try what I have tried in the past when I have found myself in a similar situation.
Some things I have done:
--- volunteered at Community Christmas dinners for underprivileged / homeless people / children's wards at hospital
--- travelled - going somewhere on a plane on Christmas day is fun - you meet other solo travellers, and you make connections with other people who are alone / in transit on the day. I have done this one a couple of times, sometimes on a solo trip to another country, and I have always enjoyed it.
---- have an anti-Christmas - refuse to do ANYTHING Christmassy all season and on the day do the exact opposite of what most people do on Christmas. Certain alters of mine totally loved doing this!

edited to add - if taking a trip to another country a great way to escape the feeling of 'missing out' is going to a country that is not predominantly Christian... Indonesia worked well for me!

i love the anti christmas idea.

thanks

may just try that