Making good solid decisions: how do you do it?

It's always bitten me in the arse.

The Alter up front makes snap decisions of course, but later it's like "WTF?"

Then there are those decisions that we have a vote on. Omg the opinions! I might as well ask Congress to take a vote. I tend to go with the loudest "Ayes", but I think I got some yellers because I've been bitten in the arse so many times.

I've tried logic, but when it's a matter of emotion, I get stumped. The best method I've found that worked in the past is to go opposite my gut feeling, but that also has its flaws.

How do yall do it?

i think im lucky that i, we, make good decisions most of the time except when manic...then miss impulsive comes out.

Yes, miss impulsive fueled by everything has thrown me in jail a few times :/. Nothing like waking up and finding yourself in a jump suit behind bars asking "why am I here?" .

I rather thought, in my simplistic way, you gathered information around the decision in question, weighed it up, and when you know all you can realistically know in the time and with the resources available, make a decision. And move on.

Yes that would be the logical thing to do, but the emotional aspect throws a wrench in the works. 99% of the time I'll make a decision, then I have to flip flop on it. I just want to hear what works for others with more than one opinion in their head.

If your decision won't stick and you flip-flop perhaps that is evidence that the initial decision was premature and more thought was needed. Alternatively you could have made a good decision, but other factors, lack of confidence for example, undermined your resolve.

Making important decisions is one of the most difficult things.

Yes. It's hard when you got 10 opinions. I'm thinking maybe limiting the votes to just host alters past and present. That would cut down on the chatter. Hmmmm

Ah well having 10 opinions would suggest that you might not have an evidence based belief system - out of my territory I am afraid. Sorry.

Lol. More like a multiple personality disorder thing. We just can't all agree. A bunch of freaking egos that don't want to budge in compromise, most of the time. Much like Congress.

Perhaps your personalities could vote on each decision, then you just have to follow the majority vote.

Thanks for the advice. It's always mostly a hung jury. We just can't seem to get it right. Funny thing is when I go to make the final decision, a renegade voice would pop out of no where and say, 'oh it's not gonna matter, do it!" Those have always been the worst decisions that I've ever made!, lol.

Thanks, I have not laughed so much for a long time. I hope your decision making success rate goes up.

Wow, glad my life long crippling dilemma gives you a good laugh. I try to play humor because without it I'd shoot myself.

i have great difficulty with decisions too. certain decisions are harder than others, I think of them as triggers. Most recently this has revolved around religion. My one self wants to become completely involved and immersed in the church. My other self is like woah, red light, don't do it. I talked to my doctor about it and she said maybe it's just my gut telling me? So now I'm avoiding it altogether. This has happened before with things like colleges, majors...I switched colleges four times and had as many majors. i don't know if that helps at all, but i can relate.

Sorry for any offence, I do struggle with empathy. Prolonged inability to make decisions must be a living hell. I did think your comment Funny thing is when I go to make the final decision, a renegade voice would pop out of no where and say, 'oh it's not gonna matter, do it!" was a particularly apt, colourful and perceptive way of describing what I suspect might be difficulties in impulse control.