friendship

most of us are so scared to be on here. the internet is so scary to so many of us... they're just words on a screen but they can hurt so much
but i want it so much... the connection and the curiosity and the learning and everything
but it's so triggering when we move from this forum (this forum feels so safe and the rest... don't ) and then next thing you know someone's writing a mean snarky post while the rest of us look on in horror and then we've just gotta stay away and not look because it's just too anxiety making
i just want to make friends again but i'm not always out and so friendship is just so hard because the rest of us either want nothing to do with people or only want a fight

thanks fuzzybear

small steps - everyone (internally) does the best they can in dealing with things in every moment. trust is built slowly (or sometimes fast, but can be shattered, too). Anyway, I am glad you're here and that we are getting to know you.

Im glad to see you. I want to be friends too.

I was always getting myself into a disaster, even going to the hospital, because I dictated to my inner child and tried to force her to do things I thought should be easy. I would get into a panic instead, that I had no control over. But I began to do better by acknowledging my alter's fear, no matter how 'silly". If I were reading 'Reader's Digest' or watching a TV show and got that fear feeling, I would immediately quit. Put the book down, turn the TV off. I wouldn't criticize or argue.

Gradually, as the alter came to trust me to respect her childish fears, she grew and matured. Many times she would release me to read or watch the TV once I had complied with her. It was always "Listen and Follow" with the inner child. Yet, doing that got me way ahead in cooperation and integration. Most people would say that I was just giving in and spoiling my childish self. But it's terror the alter feels and she will get better when she trusts you to help her instead of force. "Let there be no forcing" became my motto. I have a lot of inner cooperation now and no fear anymore. DID is important condition for T's to understand and I hope you feel welcome to talk about your littles to your T. Littles are so sensitive and like the little creatures of the forest that are very cautious about coming out into the open. They need a lot of patience from both you and the therapist, and anyone else who knows.

Thanks SO MUCH for this. I/we really needed this. I can feel it resonate with all the littles right now. I can't even tell you....

thanks restin "let there be no forcing" is a great motto and what we've been trying to use. it's so hard applying it to every facet of life when we grew up forced to do everything.
hopefully we'll be able to find a t one day who understands.

Take it in baby steps hun, me myself has found a trumpet to spill out my frustrations with life. This place is freedom to me and my cray cray because here at home I have no support what so ever, actually I have to fight the stigma in my own house.

I'm so like getting tired of it.

I cherish you guys for putting up with my cray cray. I'm feeling disenchanted.