....so much that I quit trying. Like going back to school, the idea just disappears into nothingness. Time passes, like years, then it's like I could of been done by now.

Even small ones like going to the lake, or a park. The "want to" changes. Things that I do are impulsive in nature, hardly ever thought out because things hardly ever go as planned.

Memory has a lot to do with this. It is so frustrating. Even desire changes. It's gotten to a point of being stagnant. Even when making a list, it's just so like not doable.

Somewhere, somehow we've lost co-hesion, direction, and drive.

Any suggestions?

[CANDC]

Well for me the only way to stop the drifting is to set up a routine of self care like exercise and mindfulness, things I need to do, work, re-creation, and then some free time. When it gets to the point of habitual activity the mind is less involved in censoring.

The hardest part is getting everyone on the same page. It's like trying to get a crowd to agree on the samething a the same time....not!

[flockpride]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

The hardest part is getting everyone on the same page. It's like trying to get a crowd to agree on the samething a the same time....not!

that's the big DID challenge. I certainly struggle. A set schedule can help, but it must be compelling to a majority or it will not happen.

Originally Posted by flockpride

that's the big DID challenge. I certainly struggle. A set schedule can help, but it must be compelling to a majority or it will not happen.

Oh so true, others have different ideas and plans, wants and needs, wishes...

We need a central kiosk with post its we all work for...hmmmm

[finding_my_way]

i also find it helpful to stick with a schedule. it took me a few years to really be able to. of course, it also helped having motivation, being less depressed or anxious, etc. and having a reason to actually do things, i.e. my job i've had online from home for the last few years. i have to do it in order to supplement disability or won't be able to pay all bills and have food, etc., so for the most part i've been able to maintain that which has helped me with a schedule.

but even the smallest of things, when i wake up, what i do when i wake up, i.e. wash my face, get coffee, etc. is part of it too and helps me to stay on task. some days, it has to be like 'ok, we can work until such and such time and THEN do something else' unless it's too difficult or i'm dissociating too much (rarely does that happen thankfully when working). i also find it hard to do things not because of being indecisive at times, but more because i seem to be tired ALL the time or have only five or so functional hours after i wake up where i can do something enough.

i tend to work then spend the rest of the night watching TV/online unless i have to go out after work for something. but with everything i do, i have to have a plan in mind because if i don't, it causes too much anxiety if i just leave the house and have no idea of where i'm headed. so, plans are a must for me or it throws everything off.

we don't make plans, ever.

the only thing that's really planned is the online shopping.

that's on wednesdays- and everyone has a say in what they want to order

each week a diffrent one of us does the ordering (excluding the littles obviously)

other than that, we just " go with the flow"

Originally Posted by finding_my_way

i also find it helpful to stick with a schedule. it took me a few years to really be able to. of course, it also helped having motivation, being less depressed or anxious, etc. and having a reason to actually do things, i.e. my job i've had online from home for the last few years. i have to do it in order to supplement disability or won't be able to pay all bills and have food, etc., so for the most part i've been able to maintain that which has helped me with a schedule.

but even the smallest of things, when i wake up, what i do when i wake up, i.e. wash my face, get coffee, etc. is part of it too and helps me to stay on task. some days, it has to be like 'ok, we can work until such and such time and THEN do something else' unless it's too difficult or i'm dissociating too much (rarely does that happen thankfully when working). i also find it hard to do things not because of being indecisive at times, but more because i seem to be tired ALL the time or have only five or so functional hours after i wake up where i can do something enough.

i tend to work then spend the rest of the night watching TV/online unless i have to go out after work for something. but with everything i do, i have to have a plan in mind because if i don't, it causes too much anxiety if i just leave the house and have no idea of where i'm headed. so, plans are a must for me or it throws everything off.

I wish I could. I'm self employed and our schedule is chaotic at best. I never know when a job can happen and at what times.