Without going into much detail, how does one go about keeping their sexualized alters under control?

Any advice will be appreciated.

Yeze.

I wish I knew. The only control over others that we have would be the gatekeepers that regulates who gets to present.

When bipolar hypomania sets in though, the sexual alters are often triggered because of the hypersexuality aspect, we then become porn addicts if not stars.

I try avoiding getting triggered by keeping my distance from other people. Just a touch or a brush against can flip the switch, so I keep my distance from people.

[IB splitting]

Indeed I am a survivor of sexual abuse and this very subject is was sent me back to T. I wish I had a magic waund to make these desires go away, I'm a male with mostly female alters this can be very challenging. I'm not sure what to say. I know for me I go to a trance like state and nothing else matters. Just satisfy the need, they will quiet so so bad feel so bad so bad not to good this not good no no stop it

Omg so sorry this no help at all sorry

Originally Posted by IB splitting

Indeed I am a survivor of sexual abuse and this very subject is was sent me back to T. I wish I had a magic waund to make these desires go away, I'm a male with mostly female alters this can be very challenging. I'm not sure what to say. I know for me I go to a trance like state and nothing else matters. Just satisfy the need, they will quiet so so bad feel so bad so bad not to good this not good no no stop it

Omg so sorry this no help at all sorry

Hugs, IB.S. . It couldn't have been easy to share what you have. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing so. It does help us.

Thank you.

[Kachik]

Have you tried getting to know her? My sexualized alter was/is my best friend. But her purpose was to deal with all the sexual trauma from my childhood and on. Once I found out I was DID and understood my sexual mania was due to her, we worked things out. She had to learn why she was so highly sexualized and had to learn about love. When I was able to teach her this, and guide her into the present by reminding her, every time she appeared, to ground herself , and remember she was no longer in the past and no longer needed to protect me, as I teach all my alters, she stopped behaving sexually and concentrated instead on her role as my best friend. I have also given her a new purpose, as she is very nurturing. She provides nurturing to all the little alters that were so severely neglected. This helps her feel positive about herself until she is ready to tell her story. I hope this helps. I don't know what your sexualized alter is like. For me, communication with my alters is key to creating cooperation. We have an agreement not to switch without asking first and are doing well with blending which allows each alter to share the body with me (the host). Thanks for sharing. I know what a sensitive subject it is and you have a lot of courage.

[flockpride]

The therapeutic aim of internal communication among parts might help. Once the sexualized parts become part of a group that they want to be in, those behaviors might settle down.

Originally Posted by Cinnamongirl031

Have you tried getting to know her? My sexualized alter was/is my best friend. But her purpose was to deal with all the sexual trauma from my childhood and on. Once I found out I was DID and understood my sexual mania was due to her, we worked things out. She had to learn why she was so highly sexualized and had to learn about love. When I was able to teach her this, and guide her into the present by reminding her, every time she appeared, to ground herself , and remember she was no longer in the past and no longer needed to protect me, as I teach all my alters, she stopped behaving sexually and concentrated instead on her role as my best friend. I have also given her a new purpose, as she is very nurturing. She provides nurturing to all the little alters that were so severely neglected. This helps her feel positive about herself until she is ready to tell her story. I hope this helps. I don't know what your sexualized alter is like. For me, communication with my alters is key to creating cooperation. We have an agreement not to switch without asking first and are doing well with blending which allows each alter to share the body with me (the host). Thanks for sharing. I know what a sensitive subject it is and you have a lot of courage.

Thank you for sharing, Cinnamon . The others are co operative, in that they ask before they switch. They ask if I handle things or not, and whether they should take over.It's only our sexualized alter I don't have such an agreement with.

If I'm honest with myself, I would say that I haven't tried to get to know her as a person- at least not as much as I try to get to know the other alters.It makes sense to go about changing that. Talking to her, getting to know her, and understanding her might help us out a great deal.

Thank you for taking the time to read and respond.