I don't know if y'all do this a lot, but we do a lot of line rehearsing as to what we are going to say before we answer the phone, make a phone call, meet somebody, or whatever that requires person to person communication...we call this a body check.

I know it sounds silly, but we have to make the wording and sounding sound like it would be our body's way of saying things....and OMG it's so much work bouncing it off each other to make it work.

What's really messed up is when it gets said, it sounds so rehearsed and fake that we skip right along away from the moment! Lol Sometimes (a lot of times, really) we stumble over something that should've been so perfect!

I'm sure every human on this planet does it....but I think our system takes it to a whole new level. Thought I'd say.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

I don't know if y'all do this a lot, but we do a lot of line rehearsing as to what we are going to say before we answer the phone, make a phone call, meet somebody, or whatever that requires person to person communication...we call this a body check.

I know it sounds silly, but we have to make the wording and sounding sound like it would be our body's way of saying things....and OMG it's so much work bouncing it off each other to make it work.

What's really messed up is when it gets said, it sounds so rehearsed and fake that we skip right along away from the moment! Lol Sometimes (a lot of times, really) we stumble over something that should've been so perfect!

I'm sure every human on this planet does it....but I think our system takes it to a whole new level. Thought I'd say.

no I never had to rehearse what to say on the phone in order to sound like the body person...short version my alters had their own jobs, purposes reasons for being. when rainy was in control she answered the phone as rainy, when thelma was in control she answered the phone as thelma would. they all answered to the body name and used wording that did not show there were others with in. but they all had their own way of being...

example when thelma answered the phone she would say something like amanda's place what can i do for you in a sexy voice, when red answered the phone it was more like saying yea what do ya want? when Rainy answered the phone she said hello but with a sad sound in her voice.

though when I the aware self did rehearse what to say and such for when I had a meeting to go to, even wrote down some key notes, i still do this even though I am integrated.

as a whole person I do sometimes hold conversations in my head about many things, like what am I going to say when I talk to someone at work or what ever if its a conversation about something I want to get my point across,

example a co worker is taking on my work load this week, we check in every morning on my cases, court dates and such. at night before going to bed I work out what is important for my co worker to know, write it down so that when we talk the next morning I remember to tell her the important stuff.

i used to be concerned about the fact that I did this and my treatment provider explained to me that this is a skill most people learn in school like math class, literature \english classes, history classes ...from their teachers, its called logical thinking skills, very young children learn how to do logical thinking process by playing pretend, and their parents teaching them how to put their thoughts in order when telling their parents a story or what happened when they have a problem they run to their parents about.

I was amazed that this kind of thinking was actually quite normal and wanst part of my having dissociative disorders\DID who knew right lol my therapist told me my logical thinking skills being part of my DID was probably because after being diagnosed I could pin point this problem or that one being part of my DID so why not the normal logical skills too.

anyway thats me and how this fits in with me.

[flockpride]

That sounds like a sensible thing if you know you dissociate and might switch. Heck, I do that. I mean, it can be like getting the message to the inside, "this is what we're doing next." I don't see anything wrong with it. Sounds like a good coping strategy.

Originally Posted by flockpride

That sounds like a sensible thing if you know you dissociate and might switch. Heck, I do that. I mean, it can be like getting the message to the inside, "this is what we're doing next." I don't see anything wrong with it. Sounds like a good coping strategy.

I switch over anything honey. It's like this bad social meeting other people thing that we have. There's no telling whose going to present sometimes. We have the sales person who meets the clients who is quite friendly, but during the actual work later, we have to pretend to be like him sometimes while we are busy...we can't work and talk at the same time.

We have a one track mind I keep hearing.

It's one of the blessings of being co-con it seems, always a mental convention.