Okay, how do you do this? How do you deal when you know that your self-image, perception, likes and dislikes, style, everything about you..... totally clashes with your physical appearance... I.e.- your body? WTF!?!

I mean it's like I become aware that I'm not physically the person that I think I am, I mean it's like I forget what this body looks like until an other reminds me or I look in the mirror. It's heartbreakingly depressing. How do you deal with such a thing? I just can't accept it, it makes me vex so hard, I just want to scream!

I feel so ripped off. I see everyone else my age just having fun being themselves...

I'm just griping a frustration most of us share. Thanks for letting me vent.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

Okay, how do you do this? How do you deal when you know that your self-image, perception, likes and dislikes, style, everything about you..... totally clashes with your physical appearance... I.e.- your body? WTF!?!

I mean it's like I become aware that I'm not physically the person that I think I am, I mean it's like I forget what this body looks like until an other reminds me or I look in the mirror. It's heartbreakingly depressing. How do you deal with such a thing? I just can't accept it, it makes me vex so hard, I just want to scream!

I feel so ripped off. I see everyone else my age just having fun being themselves...

I'm just griping a frustration most of us share. Thanks for letting me vent.

even normal people have problems with how they look, their self image, likes, dislikes, perceptions...

most people look at their positives rather than the negatives...example after having three children I am not as skinny as I used to be and I have stretch marks (marks on my skin where the skin had to stretch to accommodate growing babies) instead of seeing this skin blemish as a negative I change it to a positive, I gaze in wonder at the canvas of eternal artwork made by my three wonderful children.

my suggestion maybe you can turn the page of your wonderful canvas and see what positives that lay in waiting for you to notice.

This os the hardest thing for us, I think. We do not see ourselves at all as our body looks. We try hard to not look in the mirror or at pictures of ourselves. Things never look right.

[Shaly78]

If it is attainable, then I make provisions to make some happy with the wardrobe question. Guess what the mirror isn't required for life.... I don't look at it that often just don't....I wear my hair a certain way so grooming daily isn't needed. If when I did I could pretty much flat iron my hair and give a quick glance afterwards. I don't need to see to brush my teeth or face washing....When I do need the mirror or pictures taken I usually am another depending on the situation.

Thanks y'all. I think I know how I should be dealing with it.......but I can't!

It's like you know that you are a butterfly, want to dress and appear as a butterfly- everything you say or do is butterfly, but the body looks like a stink bug.

I know I should just be happy being a stink bug, but I can't! I'm trapped in a stink bug!

Uggggh! Life's so unfair and cruel.