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Feb 24, 2016, 12:54 AM
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Self Pity vs Entitlement.........
Woke up with that on my mind this morning. Self pity feels weak and entitlement feels like I should have something that I didn't earn, or I'm not entitled to. Thoughts???? I've played it over in my mind too many times today. Beat myself up over it and I'm tired of fighting with it. Is "safety" an entitlement? Is feeling loved and accepted and entitlement? Is feeling strong about who you are and entitlement? Is feeling like you can voice your thoughts, without someone cutting you down an entitlement? Please forgive me....I want to scream!! The reverse feeling side of not having these things, I believe is "self pity?" That makes me angry!!! Anger is an emotion that I do not know how to express. This is causing all kinds of craziness inside of me. Does this make sense to ANYBODY??? It's so late! I need to go to bed and get my day started for tomorrow. I just can't shut this off!! |
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Feb 24, 2016, 01:31 AM
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Hello. Please take it easy on yourself. I think I do get what you are saying. It does make sense. Feeling safe, feeling loved, being an accepted loved member of a larger community( greater than oneself), feeling secure in who who are , feeling free to be able to express your feelings and thoughts are all human needs that each of us have. They are basic common needs. Unfortunately not everyone is born into a welcoming family and not every child lives in a nuturing safe environment. When our these basic needs go unfulfilled, unrecognized, or invalidated we get angry and dissappointed. We doubt our own selves and our worth. I thinks that the way it is anyway. I know from my own eprsonal experience that if we get angry and arent even able to express it but must push it down inside ourselves, the anger comes out in other ways, like getting depressed or feeling overwhelmed, or ill. Mind and body are connected. What you write about, what you need and want from life--these are not unreasonable things. The thing is it takes effort and personal investment to fix things when there are so many things lacking in your life. Sharing your expereinces and feelings and thoughts is part of that process. Take care and realize you are not alone in wanting these things. I know it hurts so much when you feel like no one understands or cares. ITs good you share and post here . Thank you for lettiing us in to your life. hugs |
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Feb 24, 2016, 02:09 AM
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Thank you so very much for your reply! Your words encouraged me so much!!
I know these things cycle around and I was in a very tight space. I feel so very out there sometimes and it feels like nobody would understand. Those ARE basic things that everyone should know and I thank you for acknowledging them for me. I'm going to get some sleep. I thank you again for your encouraging words! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Feb 24, 2016, 11:18 AM
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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