like.. all these people around me, on the forum, isn't enough support

like because no one in the real world is really taking their time to listen, I'm invalidated

I don't know. I don't feel ungrateful for you all (you're all wonderful), but I wish their was something more?

can I feel that way?

[lucidity11]

Your not selfish. You are trying to figure this out like the rest of us and the only way to get help is to ask. That does not make you selfish. But DID is also a difficult condition to help someone with. Even my t (who has many DID patients) doesn't really know what to do with me. I forget things we discussed from the previous session unless promoted by something. I can have a part at session promise to work on consciousness with particular parts, than by the time I get home I'm not the one who talked with t so very often I don't remember promising anything. I may remember it hours or days later but sometimes not. So people are willing to help you they just maybe don't know how.

[elevatedsoul]

me too man...

like because no one in the real world is really taking their time to listen, I'm invalidated

I forget things we discussed from the previous session unless promoted by something. I can have a part at session promise to work on consciousness with particular parts, than by the time I get home I'm not the one who talked with t so very often I don't remember promising anything. I may remember it hours or days later but sometimes not. So people are willing to help you they just maybe don't know how.

Originally Posted by lucidity11

Your not selfish. You are trying to figure this out like the rest of us and the only way to get help is to ask. That does not make you selfish. But DID is also a difficult condition to help someone with. Even my t (who has many DID patients) doesn't really know what to do with me. I forget things we discussed from the previous session unless promoted by something. I can have a part at session promise to work on consciousness with particular parts, than by the time I get home I'm not the one who talked with t so very often I don't remember promising anything. I may remember it hours or days later but sometimes not. So people are willing to help you they just maybe don't know how.

I see you put a lot of thought in to that post.

thanks.. I like it when people do that.

[Luce]

No, no that is not selfishness, I think that it called being human.
It is a normal human need to be connected to other human beings, it is a normal human need to want care and support and friendship and love. When feeling vulnerable, sad, hurt, alone, the human being has a drive for connection and belonging, for attachment and protection. That is not selfishness at all, that is
reality.
You are normal and right to want those things and you are deserving them, it is the circumstances, the actions of others, that screwed everything up and made it all wrong. Maybe it is not a question of 'can I feel that way?' but a statement of "I DO feel this way!"

[TrailRunner14]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

like.. all these people around me, on the forum, isn't enough support

like because no one in the real world is really taking their time to listen, I'm invalidated

I don't know. I don't feel ungrateful for you all (you're all wonderful), but I wish their was something more?

can I feel that way?

Thank you so much for speaking your heart! I have felt the same way, and also questioned whether I could/should feel like what I'm experiencing and trying to sort out is relevant to anyone else. There are a couple of people that I attempt to talk with, besides my counselor, and it only makes me feel worse. Sometime, you just want flesh and blood to hear you. Real people, in the real world who you want to care.

Yes. I do believe that it's ok to feel that way! Validated by flesh and blood.