[whispers_inthedark]

we live in a house that's constantly triggering memories and negative thoughts about ourselves. how do other people do this? can't handle moving out without disability checks and don't know how to get them.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by whispers_inthedark

we live in a house that's constantly triggering memories and negative thoughts about ourselves. how do other people do this? can't handle moving out without disability checks and don't know how to get them.

most people that I know (including me in this) when having to be in places that are triggering to them/ me they\I dissociate so that they no longer feel triggered.

example before my alters and I were integrated any time I encountered anything of a triggering nature I would feel numb, spaced out, disconnected and the alter who's sense of agency (job, purpose reason for being created and much more about this can be found in the links at the bottom of my post) was to handle that trigger took control and handled the situation for me. even if that situation was going back to my hometown where the trauma's happened.

now that my alters and I are one whole person again I still tend to dissociate to handle triggers though my numbing, spacing out and feeling disconnected so that I no longer feel triggered. sometimes it takes some time for me to use my grounding and other techniques learned in therapy to stay present in the moment rather than numbing and spacing out.

my suggestion is contact your or a treatment provider in your location they will be able to help you develop an emergency plan of what to do to help you to handle your triggers like living in a home that is triggering you.

[Luce]

We moved out of such a house this year. We too couldn't really afford to move but a chance opportunity came up and I took it without too much thought. I don't regret it. I hope you too can find a way to move. It is very challenging to live in a triggering environment. It kinda makes it impossible to heal.

[elevatedsoul]

Im living in a not good place too 😔

We are looking to move, too. The guys started a verbal war with our insane neighbor...so we walk the gauntlet everyday for the last year to ridicule, nastiness, and threats. Then the guys go raz him some more for fun which leaves Others fearing for our security.

Going outside causes anxiety and near panic attacks. The guys would go kick his azz but the littles fears surface causing us to cower back which pisses the guys off.

We just need to move.