[whispers_inthedark]

hi.
is it possible to integrate by yourselves? or at least to communicate better. does anyone know of any resources to use? i don't think my T is going to work out, at the most i can afford to go to them once a month.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by whispers_inthedark

hi.
is it possible to integrate by yourselves? or at least to communicate better. does anyone know of any resources to use? i don't think my T is going to work out, at the most i can afford to go to them once a month.

my alters integrated back together with me when their sense of agency was no longer needed...how that happened was working on my problems with a treatment provider. when I no longer needed to dissociate to the extreme of alters taking control they just naturally merged back together with me..

the work is hard if you have no one for example you will need to learn how to handle your triggers and daily living problems all on your own with out the use of your dissociative skills. it takes many many years with a treatment provider figure many many decades on your own.

the role of a treatment provider is to teach you how to take care of your self and your problems with out dissociation... ie breathing, stress reduction tools then taking care of the triggering problem rather than spacing off, numbing and disconnecting when encountering things you can not handle. for some people it also means facing the trauma's that caused them to become DID.

but this kind of looking straight on your problems and trauma's not ignoring or pushing them away only happens after the beginning work is done like getting to know your treatment provider, learning how to confide those secrets and hidden traumas with the treatment provider, grounding and in some cases CBT and other specialized treatment options.

my suggestion is to show your treatment provider your post, let them know you how you are feeling and develop a working relationship with them. here in the USA the way the health care system is it can take up to 2- 5 years before another treatment provider becomes available. its better to have one just in case rather than not have one and have problems and left hanging with those problems because all treatment providers in your location are full caseloads and cant take on any more so the insurance sticks you with any old person who happens to be available.

[Luce]

I reckon it would be. I read today or yesterday that only one third of people with DID choose to integrate. Most choose to live with 'healthy multiplicity'. Meaning inner cooperation and unity, I guess. I reckon it would be possible without a therapist but you'd need a strong inner one to lead and support I think.

[L.P.]

I don't know about any resources or nothin but yeah I don't think you need a t to integrate or communicate better. We had two of us full blown integrate into the whole with no t. We had lots of mash ups happen to without no t. We made our biggest jumps in talkin with eachother with no t neither. I aint a fan of t's. Sure they good for ideas bout how to get the self in check but if you got a bag full of tips and tricks for coping already then there ya go.

Gotta say I agree 100% bout whats been said with havin a strong inner one to help out. Havin a game plan helps us to. Like if two of us thinkin hey we gonna get to bein more up in the others face then we make sure we got like our groundin stuff handy and a outside back up person if shtf n all.

~Gwen~