This makes it feel so fakey....

When the system is endangered....everyone feels the danger that permeates to the soul...and we all react in our own way....but the unchanging danger fact stays the same and doesn't change even though we change which makes the situation worse...

Help!

How do you deal? How does a system regroup? We feel so divided and isolated on our own perception.

We are stressed to max...everyone fighting....everyone in flight/fight/fright mode....

Of course when all is said and done....it's all dreamy, fake and real...and yet the danger persists.

Wdyd?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by AlwaysChanging2

This makes it feel so fakey....

When the system is endangered....everyone feels the danger that permeates to the soul...and we all react in our own way....but the unchanging danger fact stays the same and doesn't change even though we change which makes the situation worse...

Help!

How do you deal? How does a system regroup? We feel so divided and isolated on our own perception.

We are stressed to max...everyone fighting....everyone in flight/fight/fright mode....

Of course when all is said and done....it's all dreamy, fake and real...and yet the danger persists.

Wdyd?

a bit confusing do you mean something like this...

I amanda am out with a friend.

I get triggered by I feel is a danger to me like a dog off a leash attempts to bark and bit me as I pass by.

this fear of getting bit not only makes me scared, but makes rainy cry and red angry and Rebecca screaming...

I amanda change where I am walking by crossing the road. the dog is still barking and carrying on so I am still scared, Rainy is still crying, Rebecca is still screaming inside Red is still angry. because of all this going on I amanda start going into a panic, which causes Rainy to cry more, Rebecca to scream inside more and red to get more angry...

something like that?

when this happened to me I just kept trying different things until eventually things calmed down. I have a list of emergency grounding tools to do like breathing, smelling fruits and spices... all kinds of stuff. I also on the list are things that my alters liked which helped.

maybe you can during times when you are not triggered into this cycle sit sown and make a list of things that might help you and your alters to ground and calm down when things like this happens.

[Solnutty]

I talk to myself, a lot. Even when I have no indication that the others are listening I talk like the y are listening. If I'm worried that someone in the house will hear me then I talk internally, but talking out loud is better. Sometimes I go somewhere. Or sit in my car where I can talk alone. All the rules of common respect apply. No one likes to listen to someone who is rude, so whatever is going on inside and however I feel about the others at the moment I have to take a step back and be understanding. I reference reality a lot. I look at my hands, telling them what day and year it is, how old the body is (because most of the others will react to things as though we are still in the past when the abuses occurred, which makes dealing with now ten times worse...or 13 times worse). I talk about what we need to to, that we need to work together, ask questions, tell them I want to get to know them, that I care about what they are going through and I want to know how to help. There's more, so I'll post more later.
We are really dealing with something right now. Ash is seven and his hamster died. That doesn't seem too important to an adult, but Ash (who only months ago was trapped inside and knew nothing but abuse memories) is falling apart, raging and despairing. His distress is echoing through the system. I know it not present danger but it's all the same to him. We are trying to work together to help him.

[Solnutty]

I hope that is helpful in some way. I know it's not anything like what you are going through but I'm throwing it out there in the hope that you'll have some kind of help.

It has helped me through worse. I had an angry part assault someone once...er...more than once...and it was the talking that was the first thing that helped. He was trying to protect us. I had to see it from his perspective. He did come to realize that this person in our life was not putting us in actual danger but it just felt that way. He became much more helpful after that.

[anais_anais]

I talk out loud too. I don't always know who is listening. I sort of turn off the analyzing part of me and let words come out without thinking. Usually it's a caretaker who starts it, someone objective and calming. If I keep at it long enough, it seems like the right message gets across to the right person eventually and the loudness and panic slows down.

[dlantern]

there are days we feel so fractured you rebuild you got too this is a good start get to some kind likeness like ourselves. If that is talkn resharing explaining differently turning off the media devices. Tricking the mind, go in the doldrums oops it was only trial and error lastly just pure ole acceptance being gentle with yourselves.

Thanks you all but I have no connect with the original posting....there's a barrier preventing me from understanding, a force field of sorts that when trying to invade causes nausea and beginnings of headaches to ensue.

I'm not sure of what the op intent was, either....but I think it's a lot like of what Amanda said...I've heard of this before, not can quite remember.

But thank you all for your support on behalf of our selves.