the body's birthday is coming up, and we're depressed about it.

depressed about it because it's a date that the rest of us choose not to celebrate, and even though very few people know about it, we still get comments " it is almost your birthday, what are you going to do for your birthday" from the people who do know- what's more, those people treat it like we're a single person, not that we're multiple.

and I don't know what's worse
some people actually realising that our body birthday is soon, or people treating it like their's only one of us, and we only have one birthday

(we choose, as a system, to have 2 birthdays later on in the year)

people should just respect that we think

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

the body's birthday is coming up, and we're depressed about it.

depressed about it because it's a date that the rest of us choose not to celebrate, and even though very few people know about it, we still get comments " it is almost your birthday, what are you going to do for your birthday" from the people who do know- what's more, those people treat it like we're a single person, not that we're multiple.

and I don't know what's worse
some people actually realising that our body birthday is soon, or people treating it like their's only one of us, and we only have one birthday

(we choose, as a system, to have 2 birthdays later on in the year)

people should just respect that we think

yea unfortunately others can see the alters that are inside so they cant respect having more than one birthday...but I do have a few friends that solved this issue...

as the body birthday rolls around be the first one to mention it by saying something like wow my birthday is coming up I think I am going to wait and celebrate it on this day and month because I like springtime better than winter, maybe even have a pool party or outdoor party, if you could celebrate your birthday at any time of the year and day when would it be?

this changes the conversation from focusing on the dreaded birth date to getting other people to talk about their birthdays and celebrations in general sometime in the future..

example my siblings birthday is on christmas day of all things. he has had to like a life of christmas presents doubling as birthday presents. he has chosen to have 4 birthdays a year to compensate. he plans his own party every 4 months, sends out party cards, decorates the whole works. and calls them do over parties. Each party centers on an age where friends and family know to bring a new toy for that age, then he donates those toys to community organizations. its my siblings way to celebrate his birthdays outside of the christmas season.

maybe you can find a way to have your special days too in the ways that you want, thats the joys of being an adult you dont have to celebrate your birthday on your body day, there are ways to get around this and make it memorable so that others outside your body will instead talk about other things. be creative, pick your days and plan for them, get other people involved in the planning and enjoy your chosen days, when others see how happy your chosen days are and your plans they may surprise you and forget the body day like they have my siblings and ask instead whats your next party going to be like, can I help..

Originally Posted by amandalouise

yea unfortunately others can see the alters that are inside so they cant respect having more than one birthday...but I do have a few friends that solved this issue...

as the body birthday rolls around be the first one to mention it by saying something like wow my birthday is coming up I think I am going to wait and celebrate it on this day and month because I like springtime better than winter, maybe even have a pool party or outdoor party, if you could celebrate your birthday at any time of the year and day when would it be?

this changes the conversation from focusing on the dreaded birth date to getting other people to talk about their birthdays and celebrations in general sometime in the future..

example my siblings birthday is on christmas day of all things. he has had to like a life of christmas presents doubling as birthday presents. he has chosen to have 4 birthdays a year to compensate. he plans his own party every 4 months, sends out party cards, decorates the whole works. and calls them do over parties. Each party centers on an age where friends and family know to bring a new toy for that age, then he donates those toys to community organizations. its my siblings way to celebrate his birthdays outside of the christmas season.

maybe you can find a way to have your special days too in the ways that you want, thats the joys of being an adult you dont have to celebrate your birthday on your body day, there are ways to get around this and make it memorable so that others outside your body will instead talk about other things. be creative, pick your days and plan for them, get other people involved in the planning and enjoy your chosen days, when others see how happy your chosen days are and your plans they may surprise you and forget the body day like they have my siblings and ask instead whats your next party going to be like, can I help..

it must be great having a birthday on christmas day. just saying.

it's hard to imagine people do, but somewhere in the world, their are probably loads.

thanks for your reply.

our dates are april 4th and second july (and I'm a poet and don't know it)

I like your idea of trying to make those days special, and hopefully people will forget the body day

next person to say happy birthday to us.....

we swear they will regret it

it's not today, well technickly it is because it's when the body was born, but for the final time, we don't!, celebrate!, in!, january!

get a grip!