[just2b]

so I was cleaning and this thought popped in. For a lack of better words to explain, Does the Host, Adult mind whatever you are in your system, express the uncomfortable feelings and thoughts that bring shame, or guilt through alters or are those feelings , thoughts of the alter just that because of the dissociative barriers?

i feel at times that i the most adult mind could never express certain emotions or thoughts to T and wonder if I am through alters, even if i dont consciously feel or think that particular way? and of course that is the dissociative aspect. but i know many alters feel and think seprately from each other and may even be stuck in the past.

Hope this makes sense. just having a hard time coming to terms with my current situation

[dlantern]

Trigger Warning...

I'd suggest you not ask to be or when they do associate you to switch(es) just ask for it to not be shared. It also means knowing how a therapist workss and has worked in the past. Keep it secret for you it is only when we seek to know that gets it knowledge of everything. If you can stand it be and say some of worst then don't ask, dont' ask for the inside communication way.... I'd suggest keep ur circles small no books only to label when you possible need social security disability especially if you worked hard for it it to no healing avail.

[Loose Screw x 2]

In my experience with what I consider to be my alters, different ones will step in for me and describe what I am feeling about certain things and will even be assertive if they seem to think that it is needed to get the point accross to someone who I normally have difficulty expressing myself to. I live with one of my brother's who is less thn sympathetic most of the time and demanding as well as other things that don't seem right to me and I can hardly ever talk to him about problems without him trying to end the conversation because he doesn't care or doesn't want to hear it. When I feel unfairly treated by this behavior from my brother, one that I sometimes refer to as "persona G" will come out and defend me in a very calm but, firm way without backing down until I feel at ease or relieved. Others will speak up for me too in other situations and to different people when I can not.
That's how it is sometimes for me anyway.

[Solnutty]

Yes, if I get you correctly, my alters do speak for me. They speak for us. There are things I need to express but I simply can’t, but one of the others “owns” it and can speak about it. Most of those types of things have a thick barrier around them. They are things so deep I can’t even look at them or be fully conscious of them, but one of the others can handle and explain it. Because our coconsciousness is increasing, sometimes they have to be careful that I or someone else isn’t triggered by “overhearing “ one of those things we can’t really handle. Some of us have sharp insight into how the others work. It’s like living in a house where everyone else owns your secrets.