how do you feel when someone asks you the question " who am I talking to?" (in reffrence to which alter they are comunicating with)

I honestly don't mind. in most situations, when someone asks us that, we'll say " you're talking to alicia, you're talking to emily," what ever

when we switch we tend not to introduce ourselves

we don't say, " hi, I'm emily", we wait to be asked

and we don't mind

we also think if people actually ask us it shows some interest

[Amyjay]

Our T sometimes asks us that question and we hate it. There is only one of us who ever tells her her name, the rest of us avoid the question. t gets around it somewhat by asking age and seeing if the one there is orientated to time and place etc but as a rule we just hate being asked that.
Raging vortex do many people know you have DID and do many people ask you that question?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

how do you feel when someone asks you the question " who am I talking to?" (in reffrence to which alter they are comunicating with)

I honestly don't mind. in most situations, when someone asks us that, we'll say " you're talking to alicia, you're talking to emily," what ever

when we switch we tend not to introduce ourselves

we don't say, " hi, I'm emily", we wait to be asked

and we don't mind

mmmm interesting question...

I never got asked this, not even in therapy. my alters didnt just announce their self and I grew up having DID whether I knew I had it or not. from the first altered creation to integration I guess I just looked / appeared, talked, walked, played....the same as I always have. by that I mean to others I was just how ever I normally was.

I was diagnosed as an adult so none of my family and friends would have seen anything abnormal. most that I told just looked at me and sad wait, are you sure? you dont appear different to me. As if I should have sprouted another head or something.

I learned at a very young age to follow the abusers code of "do not tell or else this or that would happen.." This caused my alters and I to never reveal anything that would point to the abuse, that the alters existed, that I was this alter or that one. If I broke the abusers code then bad things would happen. because of this I had an alter that would do self injury and suicidal actions if I or anyone told.

I used to worry about why I was reading how others were discovering who their alters were and their treatment providers were asking things like who am I with. but then one of my treatment providers explained to me that this is one of those situations I had to understand was normal for many with DID and why my treatment providers never asked which alter I was, who they were talking to and accepted it if any disclosed I had dissociated into being an alter during therapy. They didnt want to cause me and my system to become suicidal or self injure so they didnt ask.

Our therapist can tell who is talking most of the time because we have very distinct personalities, ways of talking, tones of voices, and things we talk about. But occasionally she asks who she is talking to if we might switch in the middle of a sentence or something and she cant tell who took over. It doesnt bother us at all.

[kecanoe]

My Ts and H will ask that sometimes. Sometimes they know, or will ask if it is a specific part. Other than that, only one person knows about the DID and she doesn't ask. It doesn't bother me: in fact it seems to help communication.

[dlantern]

To me it is ignorant question as well. When being a passenger in a movie you get the title then later on who is what names, it doesn't take the sharpest knife in the draw to get that finaally someone that understands it.........Even in music you don't get that name bombing at every I'm still here switch .......I'd make my friends do the work listening replaying guess before I produce a map it is easy. I know when you really want a first impression it can be important to tell them a name..

Originally Posted by Amyjay

Our T sometimes asks us that question and we hate it. There is only one of us who ever tells her her name, the rest of us avoid the question. t gets around it somewhat by asking age and seeing if the one there is orientated to time and place etc but as a rule we just hate being asked that.
Raging vortex do many people know you have DID and do many people ask you that question?

not many people know,

and the ones that do alternate between asking it, and not really caring

[Laurel1562]

It depends on who is fronting. Some are okay saying who they are, some aren't. Sometimes with co-fronting there is no clear one "who." The one writing this does get annoyed when asked. Here's a sample of responses:
--"None of your business."
--"[name of alter fronting]"
--"Who do you think it is?"
--"I don't know."

Sometimes it makes us really tired trying to figure out and identify who is out. Just let us be.

We like it when someone knows who is out and calls us by name!

[rise13eyond]

Most of the people we talk to through text (like texts or online messaging) can tell who they're talking to by how everything is typed out and what kind of phrases are used, and whoever we're talking to will usually ask just to confirm who they're talking to. Honestly we don't really care if people have to ask, because not knowing who you're talking to would make keeping conversations straight easier. We have a tendency to switch in the middle of conversations and I can imagine it would be very confusing without any context.

I really think that would piss me off. I am me you SOB.

It’s right up there with “did you forget to take your pills today?” Grrr

I hate being called out for abnormalities and anomalies like they’re so perfect. At least my reasons are pure, what’s their excuse? It’s worse being normal yet a screw up, imho.